Am I expecting too much from my husband by wanting him to be interested in learning about pregnancy?
I’m pregnant with our first baby, and something has been bothering me more and more. My husband doesn’t really seem interested in learning about pregnancy, what my body is going through, what birth and postpartum will be like, or what I’m going to need from him.
It’s not that he refuses to help when I ask. The issue is that he seems genuinely oblivious and doesn’t seem curious enough to look things up or learn about it on his own. He doesn’t really ask questions about what’s happening with my body or what to expect. I feel like I’m the one reading, researching, preparing, thinking ahead, and learning about everything. And when I ask him about baby stuff or comment about something related to the nursery etc he acts like I’m too rushed and we have enough time (I am starting the second trimester now).
I don’t expect him to become obsessed with pregnancy or read every pregnancy book I read. But I guess I expected him to have some natural curiosity about what I’m experiencing and what’s about to happen to both of us.
Part of what worries me is postpartum. My body is going to go through a lot, I’ll potentially be recovering from birth while taking care of a newborn, and our entire life is going to change. I don’t want to have to explain everything to him only after it happens or be responsible for educating him about what I need.
Am I being unreasonable? How involved were your husbands/partners in learning about pregnancy before the baby arrived? And if your partner was initially pretty oblivious, did that change once you actually talked about it?