u/carrietoohey

i got hansen 2.0 surgery suturing my 10th to my 9th on both sides at the end of march and for the most part recovery has been good and my pain has been minimal. about 30 minutes ago my boyfriend just went to hug me while i was laying on my back but slipped and came down hard on my left side, and i had an intense sharp pain. since then i’ve had a hooking sensation and like it’s pushing inward, which i haven’t had since surgery. i’m also having a mild cold burn in the whole area and muscle spasming. (i reached out to my surgeon and will be talking about it soon) but does this sound like it could’ve slipped my rib out of place? it wasn’t an elbow or anything that jabbed into me, just his chest pushing on the area. can they be fragile enough 6 months post op to move out of place or be injured by something like that? has anyone had a rib slip from an injury after surgery? what did it feel like? is there a spectrum to it or would it be agonizing pain if the suture was affected?

i’m starting a new job in ozone park, queens area on june 15th and need to relocate in the next few days. i’ll be going alone until my coworker friends receive their start dates and join me to get a shared apartment. until then i need to find a no-strings-attached place to rent from around june 13th-july 13th to start. i’ll need to be able to leave at any time outside of a month, since it’s uncertain when my friends will get their schedules. my budget can probably allow up to $1.8k considering it’s a short term place that’s furnished with included utilities. I’m okay with a private room in a shared home, but i’m weary of a shared bathroom. i would feel much better about an all women space that shares a bathroom.
i’ve looked at all the mainstream apps (airbnb, booking.com, trivago, zumper, anyplace, trulia, zillow, apartments.com, streeteasy, fb marketplace). does anyone know of any other sites or community pages that might have more options?
and is anyone else relocating to that area too? is anyone offering a room/place month to month with those preferences? are any other women in that area looking for someone to share with on a month-to-month basis?

does anybody else forget they have srs day-to-day? i’ve experienced daily pain for so long that i think ive learned to ignore it. i’ll feel a lighting sharp pain anywhere from my eyeballs to my toes and i just adapt and move along within seconds. when those pains first started for me in oct 24’ i definitely panicked and paid lots of attention to every bit of every episode, but since then i’ve been accepting excruciating pain as my normal. i’ve gone to work, social events, dates, holiday gatherings, etc. , with excruciating pain that has ranged through every single part of my body. i’ve silently dealt with the pain as it became my normal. i don’t react or mention to every sharp pain when i’m around my friends and family, because i feel like that’s become the only thing i can say about myself since it started. every time i have friends wanting to plan a trip to an amusement park, a hike, helping friends move, driving anywhere or any other activities that require not laying flat on my back, thats when i realize i truly am limited. i’ve been absent from my job and social life for so long that being on bed rest is now my normal, and it shocks me when i’m reminded that excruciating chronic pain is NOT actually normal. for example i love to snowboard, and when i see messages in my siblings’ group chat my initial reaction is to confirm i’ll meet them at the slopes, but then i realize that i don’t have that physical freedom. if i snowboard i’m at risk of my regular daily pain, an intense slip that can cause a more intense episode of pain, or even a slip that causes pneumothorax. then i have to erase my excitement to do what i love and break the news that i must lay flat on my back in bed all weekend. i often forget i’m restricted from doing those things until i’m making formal plans or try it myself, and then the realization appears. even when i’m doing daily tasks this feeling comes up, since i’ve struggled to lift off my back to wake up or bend over to spit while brushing my teeth. it’s surreal for me realizing that i do in fact have a chronic syndrome that has taken over my life, and it progressed so fast. does anyone else feel this way?