“You’re so sweet”
I landed my “dream job” in January 2024 and I genuinely thought I had finally made it as a professional and had an awesome boss. Fast forward a few months and his mask came crashing down and shattered my illusions.
This man is the typical narcissist that bullies the team weekly via meetings and picks on everyone when we’re all together. The messed up part is he NEVER has anything bad to say in our One on Ones; he’s too much of a coward to do so. Instead he uses these one on ones as therapy and forces me to listen to how horrible his MIL is and how cool he is. (bro, what?!)
I’m so angry because I genuinely like the job and I have gained some invaluable skills but I hate that a man child who hates himself can terrorize our team and make this place unbearable. He is such a pathetic excuse for a human and he can’t even see how I’m playing him.
He calls me “sweet” because he probably thinks I’m too timid and docile to do anything but I’m actively making moves to leave while making sure to compliment him in our one on ones and on my self evaluation. A little ego stroke goes a long way with losers like him.
It’s surreal that I can see right through him and know how to play the game but it is mentally exhausting. I’m sucking it up until the end of year to make sure my employer 401k match is fully vested but then I’m out.
I found this sub just a few days ago and I’m so grateful for it! It sucks so many of us are stuck with a-holes bosses but it is heartening to read the success stories.