AITA for wanting my husband to stop some of his religious practices?
I (25M) am recently married to my wonderful husband (??M). I'm a Presbyterian from New England and he's a cannibalistic savage from the Pacific, so we've run into some cultural clashes ever since we met a few days ago, but we’ve quickly gotten past them because we love each other so much. However, yesterday we got into a disagreement that has me seriously worried.
We were staying at an inn in Nantucket, and while we’ve never spent a moment apart in our entire relationship, he requested a day to himself to perform his Ramadan(?) and I needed to find us a job, so I agreed to leave the inn for the day. When I came back for supper later, I expected he'd be done. Instead, our room was locked, and there was no answer to my knocks or calls to him. I got really scared and busted the door down, thinking he had maybe had a stroke or heart attack or something. But no, he was completely "fine," meditating in silence and utterly ignoring my existence. It wasn’t until the next morning that he finally got up and acknowledged me while acting like nothing had happened, and he can’t understand why I’m annoyed.
To be clear, I don’t have a problem with other people practicing different religions (even if I think it’s dumb), but this specific ritual of his is simply taking it too far. He’s really just hurting himself for no logical reason, and while I think everybody should have the right to do what they want to themselves, that's only so long as they don't negatively affect other people. But this incident sure affected me negatively. I was so scared for him and I could barely sleep all last night out of worry because he could have literally died of indigestion!
Because I know the importance of communication, I tried to explain this all to him, but he still doesn’t seem to understand, either because he doesn’t speak English very well or he's just refusing to take my point of view into consideration because he acted very condescendingly towards me as if I were the insane one here. He even had the nerve to bring up how he used to eat people (I also have no problem with his lifestyle choices before we met, but he KNOWS the topic of cannibalism makes me uncomfortable, so I can't understand why he'd bring it up now when I'm already so distressed). The landlady also thinks I’m crazy and is mad at me for breaking her door (even though, as I mentioned, there was a potential emergency). Not gonna lie, I kind of feel like I’m being gaslit here.
I still really like him and am committed to our relationship, but this incident worries me because we’re signed up to go on a 3-year whaling voyage soon, and I don’t want this kind of thing to become a regular occurrence. AITA?