Am i a snitch for accidentally exposing my coworkers' WFH arrangement as a new employee?
I (mid-20s) started working at the Sydney office of a large international company, and our direct manager for the Asia-Pacific region is based in Manila. There isn't any local management in Sydney—everyone is basically on the same level, except for Junior and Associate titles.
The official company policy allowed employees to work from home up to two days a week.
When I joined, I quickly noticed something strange. Some of the senior employees were almost never in the office. Later I found out they had been exploiting the lack of local management. Apparently, some of them would work remotely almost the entire week, and coworkers who were in the office would swipe their access cards for them so it looked like they had physically come in. Since our manager was overseas, he couldn't easily verify who was actually present (He only had access to the access logs, he couldn't see the actual CCTV or other physical evidence).
The thing is—I had absolutely no idea this was happening.
As a new hire, I thought the attendance pattern was just... odd. I even asked a few senior coworkers about it, but they gave vague answers and never told me what was really going on.
But honestly, if they simply said, "Hey, this is how we've been doing things, please don't mention it to management" I honestly probably would've just stayed out of it.
About a month or two later, my manager scheduled a one-on-one video call with me. We normally had fortnightly check-ins anyway, so I didn't think much of it.
During the conversation, he casually asked how I was settling in and how things were going with my coworkers. I answered honestly. I said something along the lines of:
"Everyone seems nice, but I wish I had more opportunities to interact with the team because people don't seem to be in the office very often."
I wasn't trying to report anyone. I genuinely thought I was giving feedback about my onboarding experience.
The following Monday, almost everyone suddenly showed up in the office. Then they were there five days a week.
It became pretty obvious that management had cracked down on attendance.
After that, things changed for me.
My mentor basically stopped talking to me, moved their workstation away from mine, and I felt like several coworkers started avoiding me. Since I was still new, losing that support made it much harder to ask questions or learn the job. I became increasingly anxious at work, my performance suffered, and months later I ended up on a Performance Improvement Plan before eventually losing my job.
Looking back, I understand why my coworkers might have assumed I "snitched," but I genuinely didn't know there was an arrangement to protect. I wasn't trying to get anyone into trouble—I just answered my manager's questions honestly because I thought he was asking about my onboarding experience.