Any advice about self pleasure?
Hi! I’m a 19 yo with vulvodynia and vaginismus and I’ve had it since I was 13. Still trying to figure out everything but it seemed to be triggered by a very traumatic exam done by a pediatric gynecologist (who should be fired) and ever since, my clitoris is veryyyyy hypersensitive and my vaginal opening is mostly just tight and uncomfortable, and pain with it comes from touching that area. For a long time I thought that my pain was so bad that I could never have sex or masturbate especially since I just had so much baggage with that part of my body, but over time I have gotten the pain to go down slightly, and most importantly I have gone through a lot of trauma therapy and I have recently started exploring my sexuality more. I found that I can masturbate mostly just through gentle clitoral stimulation and it feels good. The only problem is, often times it makes my pain worse. It makes my vaginal opening incredibly tight and sometimes it makes my clit more sensitive the day after. Also the climax part is quite painful and I basically have to stay completely still afterwards for a few minutes because the area is extremely sensitive right after. I’ve tried using lube and it honestly doesn’t really change my issue. I feel hope for my love and sex life for the first time in a long time I really hope I can figure out how to do it without my pain increasing.
If anyone has any suggestions or advice that would be greatly appreciated!!