u/drinkyourdinner

I’ll start out with noting that tonight I started started a freezer spell. But today was so unexpectedly powerful (in an unsettling and negative way,) I’m coming to you all for help.

Asking for “non-traditional” occult ideas, or pop psychology tools for my daughter (and maybe for myself, lol.) My in-laws are over, and my MIL is the stereotypical nightmare portrayed in Hollywood films. Negative, condescending, the type of person stuck in the distant past, who only listens to know when we stop talking so she can talk again, or repeat one of the same 5 stories we hear every time.

I pity this MIL, she is lonely and isolated because she has driven everyone away, and thankfully I only have to see her two times a year. Less since I’ve decided it’s not worth abandoning myself in a relationship and trying to keep the peace, and give the kids an opportunity to have a few memories of their grandparents. It’s also a learning opportunity to teach my kids how to ID problem people and navigate those relationships, because the world is full of assholes and we need to live in it.

I can’t really teach my daughter spell work, because she’s 12 and neurodivergent and has already gotten herself in hot water by over sharing spiritual opinions with friends in our small conservative town.

I have taught her to shield, and “mirror-bubble” herself and other people energetically, because tween girls are awful, and it seems to work for her.

BUT, today we both got physically ill (exhausted, GI distress) after being in the car with MIL and the rest of the fam on an outing for 4 hours.

We need to make it through tomorrow, and keep it light, because it’s my youngest daughter’s birthday.

HELP.

I have an older sister who has been taking financial advantage of my mom with dementia, and it also affects my 90-year-old dad. He has heart failure and fairly severe physical limitations and gets pissed that his almost 60 year old daughter comes begging for money to go on trips and vacations.

Edit to add: A different sibling is already power of attorney and is about to go ballistic on the leech. I just feel bad, because it is going to stir up unnecessary stress on both parents and us other siblings when we have to cut this sister off. My hopes are that I could contribute energy to resolve this situation energetically instead of waiting until hard words have to be said (which she will guilt and manipulate mom.)

I typically lean toward non-interference on issues that do not personally affect me, but my dad was so out of sorts when I showed up for our weekly visit today, she was there when i showed up with the kids today, he could barely speak.

She needed money to go on a ridiculous 4-day trip to Europe (4 days from the US, that’s an insanely short trip.)

I am done with this sister who takes the hard/wrong chose at every junction putting her shit on my parents (and my older sisters and nephew lawyer who manage their estate.)

I do not see it as place I’d normally meddle, judging this sister and my mom for their inability to process their own karma, but it’s negatively affecting others again.

A mirror spell (my go-to) has not worked other than to cause a back surgery that Mom ended up paying for.

Looking for counsel (not procedure) on how to approach an energetic cord clearing between my sister’s family (3 hopeless adult kids involved, too.) And maybe a justice spell.

I’m not sure a truth spell would be good, because with dementia, mom makes up her own truth now and forgets everything.