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So I rely quite alot on the library but some things just pmo and in hopes of potentially promoting better culture here are some rants

Rant 1: Seat hoggers

Its perfectly fine to leave ur stuff thr to go toilet or maybe take a walk for a few min but Ive seen people litterally come to put their bags and say lets go have lunch like let ppl use the seats if ur not gonna be using it for that long (this is for the free seats btw)

Rant 2: The no sleeping rule

Like I gets that u shldnt take up the seats to sleep but while working sometimes I wanna rest and maybe close my eyes for a few minutes without having a librarian come over and wake me up?

Rant 3: Inconsiderate noisy ppl

Those ppl that have full on conversations without even trying to whisper or the uncles that turn on their audio for everyone to hear. Pls just stop u can go litterally anywhere but the library to do that thx

Is there a reason why seemingly guys usually are the one who develop crushes faster and arguably infatuation faster(as in not actl liking the person but the idea of them)

(Im judging based on the posts abt guys having a super normal interaction like just a girl sitting next to them or even just on the same bus wo even talking to them and falling for them)

1. Issit just jokes and im taking them too seriously

2. Issit thats its true and in that case why is that so?

Issit gender stereotypes and how male friendships dont rlly deal with emotions so guys tend to feel more lonely then turn to romantic attraction.

Or issit smth stupid like cuz guys more chopped than girls so like uk girls wont like chopped guys(super bs reason)

Wld like to hear others opinion and even better if not opinion but some actual sci study if there is.

Srry for the stupid qn to end of the weekend :)

So I was facilitating some activities for beneficiaries yesterday. At the end of the session the in charge asked if there was any feedback. I said what I noticed which is that the activities were too short so the beneficiaries had nth to do afterwards. The response was passive aggressive. Instead of acknowledging, he said that instead of rushing through we should use the activities to start conversations with them so it isn't a big problem.

Firstly that is not how u respond to feedback. It made me feel like I was complaining which I had no intention to and totally deflects the actual feedback. Secondly, I have experience with kids so I already did try to start conversations with them and already took longer than others bcs those I was helping were abit slower and I had to explain stuff but still had so much extra time which is why I felt that it could be improved.

Not saying im a saint for volunteering but I did spend time to help and this is how im treated? (I've helped other orgs bef and this one was quite big so I was abit surprised at the response) Keep in mind I wasn't planning to say anth it was bcs he ASKED

The reason I even wrote this was cuz it was kinda affecting me I was blaming myself for being overly critical.(To some extent im still unsure im allowed to be pissed or its just a small thing)

To end on a more positive note I did enjoy the time interacting with the kids and I managed to teach them stuff I hope anyone else considering volunteering would not be affected by this and would decide to go its actually quite fufilling.

The other day I was walking along a bridge and unexpectedly some foreigner complimented a badge I had put on my bag. They asked me where I'm from and I was curious abt them too so I asked them if they were a student.

When they said no I thought o maybe some tourists that wanted to interact with the locals. Nope. They started saying how they were missionaries or wtv and asked me to visit their church.

Fml. Means from the start it was no genuine at all, I thought someone actually liked my badge. There was a motive. Im not rlly resentful or anth but evangelists can never feel genuine if theres a goal.

Until I was walking back then I got pissed. At first I thought maybe they were just passing through and wanted to approach me but they were canping the bridge approaching random ppl. And omd its the same setup, I heard them approaching someone and saying I like ur shirt. Same template go away la walao

No strong feelings just abit annoyed with what I saw and first time experiencing smth liddat also

Saw a few posts abt questionable stuff like guys have less options so they tend to hold on purely cuz of scarcity or how the 'nice' guy doesn't get the girl.

I'm not here to say why these views are not true or at least why they may not be so true but before we get more ppl posting abt redpill blackpill stuff firstly please actually talk to real ppl and not be stuck in toxic communities and also please don't bring ur beliefs here thx thats all

Ps: Im all for discussion about gender roles in relationships or society and how we can tackle certain old fashioned or harmful beliefs like real men don't cry but I don't wanna see posts here abt ppl whining that the 'good' guys dont get girls

I had to search up what the diff colored pills meant for this btw

Its derived from the matrix and in internet slang context

Red: The belief that dating dynamics favour women

Black: Height or other genetic characteristics that cannot be changed determines romantic success

Blue: Used by black/red pillers to describe 'delusioned' ppl who believe in conventional romance

So it's been a week since June hols and I've done more than the whole of last term.

While this exaggerated I feel like Ironically school is a worse place to learn than on your own, tutors go through stuff mostly filled with fluff, lessons like gp and CCE where nothing much is rlly done. Weird timetables with random breaks that disrupt focus.

Needing to listen to pointless ramblings of year masters and principles. And the thing is for me even I try to do other work or even the same subject during a lesson, I just cannot focus when there's someone else talking. So after school I'm feeling super drained and even I mange to get myself to do work it's not very effective since I'm tired.

Compare this to self studying, where you can decide when to wake up and choose to target areas that you are weak at at your own pace. If u feel unfocused can just take a quick walk. Days don't feel as exhausting and theres time to relax. You can dress up however and have your hair however. Time is actually spent efficiency especially since communicating time is cut down for those live further away

Now I get that school is not only a place to study, and that without structure some people(incl me) would just slack off. I'm sure there are a bunch of other reasons too but I'm just lamenting the fact that I've done so much more during the holidays than I can dream of in school. I wish we could self study and have like one or 2 days to just consult teachers with questions. I'll be so sad when holidays end :(

Exaggerated title but thought Id share since ard now is obs for most of the sec 3's. For context I went to the most boring camp so this is abt the most interesting thing that happened.

I brought toothbrushes to uk brush my teeth and on the second day while brushing it BROKE, like it was split into the bristle part and the long stick. But no worries I brought another one yay GUESS WHAT the moment I used that one, the same exact thing happend 😭.

So here I am now left with 2 toothbrush bristles and i had to hold the bristle to brush for the rest of the camp and uk its litterally just the bristle part so i couldn't even reach the back and dh enough or torque also.

Well im glad thats years ago. Feel free to share any other interesting stories abt obs and atb to the sec 3's :)

Issit just me or has the weather been hot but especially humid these days even tho it has hardly even rained. Like personally im quite sensitive to cold but wah the contrast from the mrt to outside is crazy I wish we had winter :(

I was studying physics and the homogeneity of equations whr I saw how kinetic energy is homogeneous with both 1/2 mv2 and 1/2 mc2. I saw the c and was tryna rmbr what it meant and I thought of e=mc2, except i didn't just think it, I said it OUT LOUD out loud for some godforsaken reason😭 I was oblivious until ppl looked at me and realised I said the most random thing out loud.

So embarrassing BYE 👋 but I found it funny so hope yall find this funny too and can destress from all the studying :)

Topic: Subtle experiences getting overlooked that slowly destroys self-esteem

Some time ago I met some old classmates at the bus stop and we started talking. We were pretty chill back then so when they asked me about school life and other stuff I was happy to share and ask questions about their lives too. While I was talking I realised none of them were listening, somebody else also started talking afterwards and what they had to say was more important. Its hard to illustrate the feeling through text but it really hurt somewhere in my chest.

Im aware that ppl may say oh ofc they will listen to their friends insteas but not only were those people not directly speaking to them, even if they were, I think its fair to call it rude when someone asks somebody a question and doesn't listen.

Anyways the reason this seemingly trivial occurrence triggered something in me was that it forced me to face a reality that I did not want to confront. Situations like these have happened since forever, where it seems like im unimportant, countless times where Im enjoying talking to somebody only to realise that they were just waiting for thier friend to arrive and wasn't really intersted in the convo.

Overtime this slowly got to me, until quite recently I felt the emotion but wasn't really impacted, but as time went on thoughts start to appear, why issit that literally everyone seems like they are sort of forced to talk to me? Or at least would much rather talk to someone else instead of me.

Mandatory reflection is that I should stay rational and say ignore these people and in the future I will find people who find value in me but it gets really difficult when it has been such a long time of such repeated experiences and it really makes me doubt myself. What if I really am the problem?

This is actually not an inspirational post :)

Can ppl stop acting like they did badly when they know they didn't. Every single time after a test everyone says Im gonna fail. Then when end up they get highest in the class. Wah pmo sia I'm here getting U's and actually struggling while it feels like these ppl mocking me. Makes me feel demoralized when I thought hey maybe the paper was difficult since ppl are saying they cant pass then realise its only difficult for me.

Half serious not serious not meant to be taken seriously post btw. Ik I shouldn't care what ppl say and ppl may legit not feel confident abt the paper and its a way to sort of if you expect the worse cant be dissapointed. But just wanted to put this thought that it may affect others who are actually struggling with the paper and actually do badly emotionally by abit.