u/every1luvschocolate — reddlx

I feel embarrassed, hopeless and ashamed and just needed to vent

I’m getting electrolysis on my upper lip, cheeks, sideburns, entire neck, and chin. Honestly, I just want all of it gone.

My first electrolysis appointment is this Wednesday, and I have a dentist appointment before then. I’m feeling embarrassed and ashamed. I usually pluck or shave almost every day, so when I had to let it grow out for treatment, I didn’t realize until now just how much hair there actually was.

I want to be very clear that this is not meant to judge anyone else dealing with facial hair who cannot get electrolysis right now. Trust me, I understand. It took me more than a decade before I was finally in a position where I could afford to do this.

But seeing everything grown out at once has hit me harder emotionally than I expected. I’m literally in tears right now from the frustration of it all. I’m sad, overwhelmed, and honestly grieving the amount of time, energy, and emotional weight this has taken from me over the years.

The reason I struggle with acne and scarring is because my hairs grow in curly and become ingrown. Then come the bumps, the inflammation, and the marks they leave behind. It feels like an endless cycle that I’ve been fighting for so long. Each day that I look in the mirror there is more and more facial hair. I feel defeated like this process is never going to end or will take years to treat.

I think what I’m really looking for right now is encouragement and to hear from other women who have gone through this too. I work from home and I’m a homebody, so I have never really had the chance to meet other women experiencing the same thing. Most of the time I’ve felt completely alone in it.

My hair actually extends farther down my neck than what you can see in the picture, but my shirt is covering part of it.

If you have dealt with facial hair, ingrown hairs, or gone through electrolysis yourself, I would really appreciate hearing your experience. Did you feel embarrassed growing it out for appointments? Did you ever feel like you were the only one going through it? I could really use the reminder that I’m not alone in this. This is only one week and a couple days of hair growth, btw 🙃😭😭

u/every1luvschocolate — 7 days ago

▲ 2 r/electrolysis

Best numbing cream for facial electrolysis?

Hello,

I’m getting electrolysis this Wednesday and I need some recommendations of the best numbing cream I should get for facial and neck electrolysis please? I have sensory issues and need all the help I can get. I prefer to order off Amazon.

Thank you

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u/every1luvschocolate — 9 days ago

▲ 1 r/Blackskincare

Best numbing cream for facial electrolysis?

Hello,

I’m getting electrolysis this Wednesday and I need some recommendations of the best numbing cream I should get for facial and neck electrolysis please? I prefer to order off Amazon.

Thank you

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u/every1luvschocolate — 9 days ago

▲ 6 r/electrolysis

Do I Really Need to Stop Hydroquinone Before Electrolysis, or Just Tretinoin?

Hello,

I’m a brown skinned girl (African American) with PCOS, which causes excess hair growth on my face and neck. I’ve been using Musely Spot Cream (12% hydroquinone and 0.05% tretinoin), and it’s been working wonders. For the first time in a long time, I can look in the mirror without feeling sad.

I have chronic ingrown hairs that have caused scarring and hyperpigmentation. My practitioner wants me to stop using tretinoin one week before electrolysis. However, the thought of stopping hydroquinone on my face & neck makes my heart drop 😫. I’m really worried that all of my progress will start to reverse.

Would it be okay to continue using a lower strength hydroquinone, like 4%, and only stop the tretinoin? Or do I need to discontinue the hydroquinone as well before electrolysis?

I’d love to hear from anyone who has experience with electrolysis, hydroquinone, or treating hyperpigmentation while undergoing hair removal. Thank you! ❤️

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u/every1luvschocolate — 13 days ago

▲ 0 r/MovieSuggestions

Need a new show or movie obsession. Any recommendations?

Looking for a new series or a good movie to get into. Any suggestions?

I like anything drama, suspense, thrillers, horror, and dystopian stuff. I like spicy stuff too like 365 days 😅

Some of my favorite shows are:
The Handmaid’s Tale, You, In the Dark, and Euphoria.

Favorite movies:
28 Days Later, I Am Legend, The Mist, and Vile, 365 Days

Based on those, what should I watch next? Thanks!

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u/every1luvschocolate — 14 days ago

▲ 7 r/Blackskincare

How painful is electrolysis going to be?

I’ve been using Musley (hydroquinone & tretinoin combo) on my neck and have seen slight improvement but I’ve decided to pursue electrolysis because of the scarring caused by constant ingrowns. My endo thinks I still have PCOS even though my tests are normal. How painful is it? I have sensory issues so I’m really worried, how painful is it?

u/every1luvschocolate — 15 days ago

▲ 5 r/Blackskincare

Advice on widespread body hyperpigmentation?

* Repost because I accidentally deleted it somehow.

I appreciate when people emphasize that treating hyperpigmentation is different from skin bleaching because that’s exactly where I’m coming from.

I have hyperpigmentation all over my body from several things including melasma, old bug bites, ingrown hair scars, and surgical scars on my legs and feet from two reconstructive operations. My goal is simply to even out my skin tone and get back to my natural color, not become lighter than I naturally am.

My dermatologist prescribed me 12% hydroquinone for my face and a separate 12% hydroquinone body cream. The body cream works, but it’s extremely expensive and comes in a very small amount, so I only use it on the darkest areas.

I’m considering using the BAHA serum with 2% hydroquinone on the rest of my body for a short period and then maintaining my results with gentler or more natural products afterward.

Does anyone else struggle with widespread hyperpigmentation like this? Have you used lower strength hydroquinone on larger body areas and, if so, how did you use it safely?
Any tips on cycling it, preventing irritation, or maintaining results would be really appreciated.

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u/every1luvschocolate — 17 days ago

▲ 1 r/Blackskincare

Widespread Body Hyperpigmentation?

I appreciate when people emphasize that treating hyperpigmentation is different from skin bleaching because that’s exactly where I’m coming from.

I’m considering using the BAHA serum with 2% hydroquinone on the rest of my body for a short period and then maintaining my results with gentler or more natural products afterward.

Does anyone else struggle with widespread hyperpigmentation like this? Have you used lower strength hydroquinone on larger body areas and, if so, how did you use it safely? Any tips on cycling it, preventing irritation, or maintaining results would be really appreciated.

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u/every1luvschocolate — 17 days ago

▲ 8 r/tryingtoconceive

Am I Overthinking This? TTC After 5 Months

Hi Ladies,

I mean no disrespect by asking this question. I know many of your journeys have been much longer than mine, and I think you are all incredibly strong.

I am 31 years old and have been trying to conceive for 5 months without success. I’ve done cycles of Letrozole, Clomid, and a trigger shot, but so far I have not gotten pregnant. I also had an HSG, and my reproductive endocrinologist said everything looks good. I have no fibroids or polyps, and both of my tubes are open.

My husband has his semen analysis scheduled for this Friday.

I just wanted to ask if the amount of time it’s taking me to conceive is normal. We are timing everything correctly, but I’m starting to feel really scared and discouraged.

I would appreciate any insight or experiences you would be willing to share. Thank you.

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I only count 5 months of officially trying to conceive because before that I was not ovulating and did not realize it. I did not have my period for a year due to a medication I was taking, and I was not ovulating during that time. After stopping the medication, my periods returned, but I still was not ovulating. However, I did naturally ovulate in February, so it is possible that I may be starting to ovulate naturally again.
My reproductive endocrinologist said we will continue with my fertility plan and try a few more cycles.

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u/every1luvschocolate — 26 days ago

▲ 3 r/TTC_PCOS

Student Debt and Having a Baby

Woman who have babies, children or expecting. How much do you and your partner make per year and how much is your health insurance? Your ages please? My husband doesn’t think we can start a family because I have 40k in debt and we make $110k together a year. I pay about $500 per
month for my health insurance. We’re both 31 and I think time is ticking.

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u/every1luvschocolate — 1 month ago

▲ 509 r/seniordogs

Sailor’s Story Loving a Hospice Dog Through the End

This is Sailor, my 14+ year old Bichon Frise mix hospice dog. About 2 years ago, I agreed to foster him without fully understanding how medically complex his condition was. Once I realized how serious everything was, I decided to see him through the rest of his life and eventually adopted him.

Sailor suffered from dementia/cognitive decline, severe sundowning, separation anxiety, chronic kidney disease, severe dental disease, blindness, deafness, frequent seizures, a collapsed trachea, and severe mobility decline. One emergency vet also suspected there may have been an underlying neurological condition or brain cancer as well.

He required multiple medications daily just to remain somewhat comfortable, and he was so neurologically sensitive that even stress, excitement, or medication administration could sometimes trigger seizures. Despite everything, he still loved being outside in his stroller, and that was often the only time he seemed fully at peace.

Caring for him was emotionally and physically exhausting at times. I already had pets of my own, and as someone with autism, the constant pacing, crying, nighttime wakeups, and medical care became very overwhelming. Still, I loved him deeply and wanted to give him comfort and safety during the final stage of his life.

We invested heavily into his care with emergency vet visits, medications, dental surgery, and ongoing appointments. After his dental procedure, he actually improved for a while. He gained weight, had more energy, and seemed brighter.

Unfortunately, his decline eventually became more severe. He became increasingly confused, lost mobility, needed assistance standing and eating, and cried frequently despite all of our efforts to keep him comfortable.

He was humanely euthanized 2 years ago, and looking back, I honestly think waiting longer would have only prolonged his suffering. That experience taught me that sometimes the kindest thing we can do for animals is let them go peacefully before things become unbearable. I learned that it’s better a couple months too early than a couple months too late.

I just wanted to share Sailor’s story so people know he was here, he existed, and he mattered. I still feel sad that he was surrendered near the end of his life. I know I don’t know his previous owner’s circumstances and I try not to judge, but I hope he knew he was deeply loved and cared for until the very end.

u/every1luvschocolate — 2 months ago