jealousy is making me a bad friend
i’m single, queer, and monogamous. my luck in dating has been pretty slim because of my picky dating preferences and parts of my identity. most of my cc friends are poly with a nesting partner and i have a few single acquaintances that are non-maskers (monogamous mostly) who have frequent dates and hookups with people. recently, i’ve started to get annoyed at both parties and it’s making me feel like a horrible friend. the reasons being: a.) i’m tired of hearing someone who already has someone super locked in with them tell me their crush doesn’t like them back. and b.) someone didn’t get a chance to fuck someone they liked because they haven’t had sex in a *whopping* three months.
i have put up boundaries around the frequency in which we have conversations about their problems, because i want to be supportive. but increasingly i find myself not wanting to hear it at all because i simply don’t give a fuck. i am devoid of empathy for their relational problems. i’ll catch myself thinking “at least you have someone/at least you can have casual sex/at least you have someone courting you.” while i’m sure it’s a normal human experience of jealousy, i hate how it makes me feel and i‘m unsure when to address it with my friends (i want to). any advice is appreciated!