u/heresmy3cents

I'm currently reading "Danshari The Japanese Art of Decluttering Your Space to Transform Your Life" by Hidrko Yamashita. It is helping me to shift my opinions about "stuff" and begin seriously decluttering for an eventual move to a new home.

Last week I decided to put the new mindset to the test and pulled out all of my shoes from 6 different locations in the house, including my closet, the coat closet, and small rugs near the garage entrance & back door where shoes are left when we enter the house. All of the areas were overflowing and not organized in a meaningful way. We have a designated shoe rack in the new house that I will share with my husband, so I needed to think through the future use of that space.

I'm happy to say that I donated a good number of shoes, but I trashed even more.

1. Shoes deteriorate even though you are not wearing them. The material used for the inner lining cracks and flakes, so if you wear them you wind up with pieces of the lining on your feet and the floor when you take them off. So many people in this sub mention clothing and shoes they are not wearing because they WFH now. Unless your shoes are leather outer & inner, you may find this same situation. I had to trash several pairs of shoes that looked fine on the outside, but the insides were in bad shape. I'm old enough to remember when everyday shoes were made with better quality materials and sometimes you even had the heels repaired because the shoes had lots of usable life left.

2. I found that grouping shoes according to their use / social situations was the best way to evaluate them. Looking at dressy shoes all together allowed me to whittle down to only a few pairs that I would really wear to a wedding or something similar. This was surprisingly easy after eliminating the deteriorating ones, and a few that were a color that I rarely wear anymore. I didn't even need to try them all on one last time!

3. I watched a video where after sorting shoes they looked at the similarities and tried to learn from that. For example, are all the favorites similar in style, heel height, or color? When I sorted by use, i realized that once I find something I like (that also meets my need for arch support) I tend to purchase several pairs from the same brand. This is easy for me because I know they will feel comfortable and they will get a lot of use. My problem was that I didn't discard the first pair (which was already looking a little shabby) when I purchased pair #2 & #3 & #4. Of course I wore the newest pairs most often and the older ones were hardly used in the past year. So sticking with a known brand / style is a good idea for me, but I need to force myself to discard the older ones.

4. Now, a week after the shoe purge and storing them by use / social situations the biggest difference is in the ease and functionality of my shoe wardrobe.

Leaving the house for errands? I can look at two shelves in the coat closet to select my shoes. I know they are all functioning, comfortable, clean and ready to go.

Selecting a dress for an upcoming wedding? I can pull out the bin with 3 dressy pairs from the top shelf of my closet and select the best option.

I also feel like some of the shoes I kept will get worn more often because they "made the cut" and by positioning them on a shelf with other shoes for the same uses, I'm giving them equal status, rather than having them scattered in different areas.

Next up, finishing the Danshari book and evaluating clothing categories in a similar way.

In the last several years, we have acquired many possessions from family members who passed away or moved to assisted living. I'm thinking about how to determine what to keep and how to pass the most meaningful items AND their info to the next generation.

If the person is deceased, often the stories are lost. How did they acquire the item, and was it something they treasured or just background decor in their home? Maybe they just kept the item out of a sense of obligation, but now we don't know that.

If the older relative is still alive, literally everything has a story. It's a challenge to curate and select the meaningful items. Admittedly, I'm a nostalgic person, but I can't carry the weight of their nostalgia too.

I'm looking for advice from anyone who has created a simple record of the most meaningful family possessions (regardless of their monetary value). I was wondering if a SMALL binder with a photo of the item and a quick note about who owned it, how it was acquired & maybe the date the family member passed away would make a difference when the next generation is looking at my possessions?

For the record, I'm in my 60s and currently decluttering for an eventual move. My children are in their 20s. I have no grandchildren (yet). You may wonder why don't I just tell them directly about specific items, but what's the chance they will recall the details in the future? With a binder, maybe they could take the corresponding photo/info with the items they keep? At least they would know why I kept that item so they could make an informed decision?

We are traveling with an elderly person who has trouble walking. We're planning to request a wheelchair to get them to the gate.

I'm willing to pay for a parking spot in the garage attached to Terminal C, but I wonder if it will be easy for the driver to drop 2 of us plus luggage at Delta and then get into the parking garage, or will they have to circle around?

When we return, the driver can use the skybridge to get to the car, but again, will they have to circle around to get back to the area where they can pick us up outside Terminal C? Thank you!