u/inkandembers96

I feel like it isn’t spoken about enough, I’m 27 weeks and the kicks and punches have gotten so strong and painful. Baby is really low down and when I get kicks/punches I feel it tugging on my uterus and sometimes tugs on my cervix and it’s so painful! I’m getting lightning crotch when baby jabs at my cervix but I’m also getting pain outside of that too.

I’m so grateful for this pregnancy but I didn’t expect the kicks to cause pain this early on

Found out at my anatomy scan that my placenta is low lying, looks like it’s encroaching on the cervix but I’ll need a transvaginal scan to confirm how close it is.

Has anyone else been in the same situation at 22 weeks and then had it resolve? I have a posterior placenta so I know the chances of it resolving are less.

I’ve always wanted a vaginal birth and I’d be devastated if I had to have a c-section but obviously I’ll do whatever is best/safest for baby

I’m already a high risk pregnancy after a stillbirth so this just adds to the worry I already have

TW talk about previous loss

Currently 20 weeks pregnant and I keep going back and forth about having one. I know a lot of people see them as a “oh look they just want gifts” thing but that’s so far from why I want to have one.

We had a stillbirth last year due to fetal abnormalities that we knew about and then right before this pregnancy I had a chemical pregnancy. I’ve always wanted to be a mum, I’ve literally dreamt about it for over 10 years now and last year was just devastating. If I were to have a baby shower it would be to celebrate the fact that this is a healthy pregnancy and that I’m so excited to finally be a mum. I just want the day to be a celebration, not a gift grab, not a beg for items thing.

I’m worried that if I have one people won’t see that we’re doing it for celebration reasons or worse that they’ll feel obligated to bring gifts. I’d obviously make it very clear that gifts are not what the day is about and all that.

The other reason I’m back and forth on it is, I don’t have any girl friends. Making friendships is something I’ve struggled hugely with and I know most baby showers are thrown by friends.

Are baby showers inherently selfish? Should I just let go of the idea? Getting to this stage of the pregnancy without any red flags has been a huge win for us and I’m just excited now about the future and I want to celebrate but I’m worried I’m just being silly

My due date also falls right after my 30th birthday so I know I won’t get any sort of celebration for that so I just want to get together with our families and have a nice day