u/iondajemrmot

I’m an adult with ADHD. This makes doing things difficult. However, up until ~5 years ago I was able to do a lot. I worked out every other day, walked 10k steps every day, read books every day, did stretches/yoga almost daily, excelled at work, and would try to learn new skills.

Since then I unfortunately experienced a lot of terrible things. My aunt got killed and many relatives and friends died/got terribly sick. I came to partially accept that I’ll never achieve my goal of providing my parents and my kids a cushy life which, given that was my goal and identity since I was 10, threw me into a big depressive state. I had 15 surgeries which I’ve recently learned could have been completely avoided. I’ve been fired from my job. Etc.

And recently I noticed I struggle to do things more than I ever had. I’m slower, mentally get tired quicker, and things that I could bully myself into completing with timers and nagging I simply can’t start even with my medication.

Feel lost and hope someone will have good advice for me.

Iz Vaše perspektive, sto je ozbiljnije i iskrenije moguće, zašto ste sami?

Ovo pitam koliko iz interesa kako ljudi razmišljaju o tome i toliko uz mog uverenja da u tridesetim su “na tržištu” obično ljudi sa kojima bi bilo izazovno išta početi.

Bolestan blejim na redditu i viđam pitanja tipa:
- da li ste u kontaktu sa bivšim
- da li je moguće ostati prijatelj nakon seksa
- da li dok ste u vezi imate kontakt sa bivšim i ako da zašto

Većina komentara se može sumirati sa “Ne, ja to odjebem. Da je bilo dobro ne bi bio bivši xexe. Imam ja prijatelje šta će mi bivši.”. Meni ovo izgleda kao da ljudi većinski posmatraju devojku/decka kao primarno za seks, sekundarno za pažnju i drugi vrstu intime, tercijarno kao ljudsko biće sa kojima su prijatelji.

Jako me zanima odakle ovakav stav i generalna perspektiva. Bilo je i pre da stariji to mladima govore još pre 20 godina a oni ko papagaji ponavljali. Možda su samo papagaji odrasli pa prosipaju istu retoriku?