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After reading through a lot of posts here, I noticed a pattern: many people mentioned that reassessments didn’t go well for them, especially in situations where the worker misunderstood the person’s actual needs. That made me think carefully about whether a second reassessment would be helpful in my case.

Because of that, I decided to go straight to appeal instead of doing another reassessment. It seems like a more structured process, with clearer review of documentation and less chance of being misunderstood during a short conversation.

Just wanted to share in case anyone else is deciding between the two. Appeal feels like the more stable option for me.

Hi everyone, I’m the caregiver for my elderly mom who has dementia. I’m running into a problem with IHSS and I’m hoping someone here has experience with this.

My mom can still speak clearly, but her dementia causes her to give answers that sound normal even when they’re not accurate. She also gets confused, switches languages, or masks symptoms. For people who don’t know her, she can look “fine” for a few minutes even though she needs constant supervision.

The IHSS caseworker keeps wanting to talk to her directly during assessments and phone calls. I’m worried this will mislead them into thinking she doesn’t need protective supervision. I’ve tried explaining that she can’t answer reliably, but I’m not sure how firm I’m allowed to be or what IHSS expects in these situations.

Has anyone dealt with this? How do you handle it when the person with dementia gives misleading answers that make them look healthier than they are? Is it acceptable to tell the caseworker to direct all questions to me?

Any advice or experience would really help.

Thanks.