I met her at university, though only in the last year of our courses (2023-24) did we become friends. Seeing that we have quite a few things in common, and that she is very sweet, I started developing a crush, until I would think about her all the time. Originally I wanted to suppress it, since I don't want to make moves on friends, but it kept going, until I watched NGE in December of 2025 (she too has watched it, and so has her brother).
Seeing Shinji wall himself away from others and then feeling sad about it (though his case was much more complicated), as well as the hopeful note of the last episode, I realised that I didn't want to torment myself so much over nothing, and decided that I have to talk to her. We arranged a call about a week ago in order to talk about our news (since she is studying abroad for her master's), and in that call I spilled the beans about how special and sweet she is.
It turns out that she doesn't feel the same, but at least she wants to continue the friendship, so it evens out.
In conclusion, talk about your feelings respectfully, and a good friend will value them. Don't let them burden your mind.
u/khares_koures2002 — 4 months ago