u/massacre3bhagalpur

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I am hesitant giving my kidney to my mother

(Ignore poor english)

I am 18m mother 39 f she is on dialysis for 2 years now, on dialysis thrice a week diagnosed with ckd

Reason is i am unsure of survival rate of kidney amd she is kinda ignorant towards diet and medication , she dont even take BP tablets untill she ends up ICU

Her diet is verry poor she dont eat nonveg, ever after constantly trying to force she wouldnt even eat eggs just bcz she dont like it, even if i somehow manage to give veg options she just dont eat bcz she dont like the taste of it

Now i am thinking i wont be living with her after due to study and work reasons and my father is not available at home even if he do he dont bother to do things

And even if i somehoe manage it i am sure she wont be taking post transplant medication when she dont even take basic BP tabs, AND HYPOTHETICALLY assumming even if she do i am only buying 10-15 years max

Another poing she is tobacco addict and i have tried my ass off to get her out of habbit but i am not able to and i wont be in my lifetime

I am verry concerned about my body / health i take care of it so much, i avoid every single thing that can harm my body , and i also dont want any medical complexity due to donating

Thats why i am being hesistant, what should i do

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u/massacre3bhagalpur — 6 days ago