How to shorten my list of potential grad schools?
Hi all. Brief context - I'm applying for grad school in mechanical engineering. I graduated in 2024 from a state school (USA) with a 3.8 GPA in the program's honors college (because I didn't realize it was pointless). I've been working in an irrelevant engineering field since graduating. I worked in research labs for 3.5/4 years during my undergrad and I have one first-author conference paper. Had a pretty sweet senior design project/thesis too. Both my paper and my senior project are relevant to the research I want to pursue. I'm applying to PhDs in the US, master's degrees in Canada and Europe (I'm Canadian), and I'm considering a few PhD programs in the UK. I'd like to stay in academia long-term (or at least have the option to do so), so school prestige is a factor here.
I started with a list of 60+ schools and looked into the research of 100+ professors who had recent publications in my target research area. I've trimmed the list down to 20 schools based on my research fit.
I am STRUGGLING to cut the list any further, but I know I need to so I don't spend a ton of money on applications and to take some stress off of LoR writers. I have a couple of "safety" master's programs on there (with research I don't love but in labs I have a good shot at getting funding for). I have quite a few PIs on there with best-in-the-world labs, but all of their current grad students went to top 20 schools AND have perfect GPAs plus journal publications. A few schools are a perfect research fit, but I think I would hate living in the cities they're located in. Some labs only have 1-2 PhD students, some labs are run by assistant professors, and some schools only have one PI I'd be interested in working with.
Basically just looking for advice. Where should I draw the line of being realistic when applying to "dream" labs? Is it worth it to have some "safety" programs on there? How much does location really matter if I love what I'm doing?