Feeling like I made the wrong decision, was I misled about an internal transfer?
I’m feeling like I’ve made the wrong choice with an internal move and honestly don’t know what to do now.
I’m currently in a pretty unstable team.
My current line manager and one of my coworkers have a close personal friendship and I’ve felt like I’ve been overlooked for development for a while, so I applied for an internal opportunities register.
A Director from another team reached out and offered me a vacant position on his team. I asked questions before saying yes, around expectations, portfolio, where I’d be working and who I’d report to.
I was told I could work from my preferred office and that I’d be reporting to a manager I already have a good rapport with. They’re good with development and that was a pretty big deal breaker as to why I said yes.
I accepted, and it’s now been announced to both teams that I’m transferring.
I met with the AD in the new team where I was told I’ll actually be working from a different office and reporting to a different manager.
I did explain to the new AD that I was under a different impression because the director had told me the exact opposite.
The office part is a dealbreaker because I have kids and it means a significantly longer commute and changes a lot of my arrangements.
I’ve also worked with the manager I’m going to be reporting to before and they’re a difficult personality, so that’s made me even more nervous about the transfer.
I just feel a bit blindsided and slightly misled because I specifically asked about these things before I agreed to move.
The hard part is my current AD is new and is actually starting to fix a lot of the problems in my current team. They’ve also been pretty upfront with me and said they think my current manager and my coworker has been holding me back development wise.
At the same time, my current AD thinks the area I’m moving to will give me much broader opportunities and have basically said that despite the difficult manager, I should probably still take the opportunity and even gave me some advice on how to work with them.
I feel damned if I do, damned if I don’t.
Stay where I am and potentially keep getting held back, just as things are finally starting to improve.
Or go somewhere with potentially better opportunities and career development, but where two of the major things I was told before accepting have now changed.
Has anyone been in a similar situation?
A part of me wants to go back to the Director who offered me the job and say this isn’t what I understood you were agreeing to.
I also have no idea how it would be perceived to back out now that both teams have already been told I’m moving.
Just feeling pretty lost with the whole thing and would appreciate some perspectives.