u/nochlessmonster_

I was recently on a long pull-through trip with my friend when, standing on a ledge over the last pitch, they clipped their karabiner into the loop and rigged their descender on the wrong side.

They then swung out as usual only they had just thrown themselves down a pitch. I saw them fall back and bounce headfirst off a rock before landing on a lower ledge. They were all physically okay but had it been any of the previous pitches, they would've died.

It was just very scary to watch. I've since had a nightmare about falling off a pitch. This sport mostly feels safe, but this has been a brutal reminder of the fact that it only takes two consecutive mistakes and it's all over.

Suddenly the lectures from my elder cavers about having my kit be perfect and doing everything totally right is less picky and more appreciated.

Edit: they swung out to test their descender because they clipped their cowstails into the knot. They were trying to test their descender when they fell. The wrong rope was going straight into a bag.

So I (21 F) don't think I have endo because you lot are in twice as much agony in 2x more ways than me. I hope that this doesn't rub you up the wrong way as I know that being ignored when you suffer so immensely must be even more infuriating.

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BUT ... I do get horrible period pain, irregular periods, pain during and after sex, nausea, evil period sciatica and have really bad uterine pain before and during passing stools. But weirdly it disappears afterwards.

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When I was little (13) i had no pain but from 14/15 it kinda started as strange, hard to place discomfort and has just got worse every year to the point where it's painful despite the max dose of painkillers.

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It doesn't happen all the time. Some periods are much nicer than others. I'm mostly okay but then I get another EVIL one and start researching endo again.

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The thing I'm mad about is that I went to the doctor and they basically said

-you're too young to be diagnosed

-we can probe you if you really like but it will be unpleasant and invasive (I have sexual trauma) and we won't find anything

- you can go on the pill (no I can't as I am at high risk for clots and I've tried the mini pill and I bled for 50 days straight)

- you can have a coil (don't want more agony than I'm already facing plus that didn't agree with my mam and she had to have it removed and I'm menstrually similar to her so don't think I'll have any better luck)

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So basically: you aren't in enough pain/haven't been in enough pain long enough for us to even think about gaslighting you and doing nothing while you suffer.

There's nothing we can do if you have endo and there's nothing we can do if you don't.

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It's all so frustrating because I KNOW that something is wrong but I also know that nobody medical will ever do anything about it. Not even give me answers.

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Won't be surprised if in ten years I'm begging for a Uterectomy and still being ignored.