u/obi_biscuit

I am wracked with guilt, embarrassment and some shame.
A few months back a family member (not particularly close to me now but we had been more so many years back) announced her pregnancy at very early stages on social media. A few months ago.

I have had a number of miscarriages over the years, no living children. (This is not public knowledge) I want to be able to text her, leave a voice message or a casual phone call. I literally freeze up and panic when I try. I’ve been putting it off for ages. I am afraid I might cry or give myself away in communication. I wish I could take a tablet or something that would guarantee me to be cool relaxed and casual in a conversation but I’m so stuck. A few other family members asked me did I hear I managed to say cool saying oh gosh yes I must text and I’m a terrible scatter brain.

I’m not a dickhead in any other way it’s just I freeze when I pick up the phone. I feel terrible for not contacting her. It’s on my mind every day since I saw the post. I expect to get roasted, she deserves huge congratulations and a message. One of my worries is if we speak on phone il cry and I don’t want to make it about me. I think it’s both the fear of miscarriage for her, and a reminder of my own grief. I think I’d be ok congratulating when baby comes. I’m nervous during pregnancy- I realise it’s not rational but I’m stuck in this thinking. I’m disappointed and sad in myself that I haven’t managed it yet.

Has anyone been in this position, how did you handle it?

Hi I have the monjaro prescription with about 4 weeks. I was told I should only take it a few months by gyno consultant. I was in for hrt consult and I mentioned weight creeping up. I think my bmi is 27-28 now. I feel more and more like a walking apple every day!

I was told to cut carbs first before starting one month before hand. I’m on hrt and thyroid meds. I wonder is anyone here in a similar boat?

The more I look at sub I see folks that take maintenance dosage. Has anyone managed to take it for a few months and come off it entirely with new diet?

I’m also wondering if it will impact effectiveness of oral meds? I just got HRT dosage sorted and I’m scared it might impact absorption and il go back to insomnia again. Then again getting ready today NOTHING fit me or looked good so I’m torn.