Moved to new area at 34 weeks. Provider is not supportive. Help!
34 weeks pregnant and just moved to a new area. For background, my last OBGYN told me a TOLAC was a completely reasonable option for me. There aren’t many OBs in my new area and all the highest rated ones share an office so I just picked one that is often recommended on Facebook groups. When I told him I want to VBAC he was extremely hesitant.
The bad: He went on and on about how he could get sued and how a woman had recently had a uterine rupture and she hadn’t even had a c-section before. He suggested that a repeat C-section was the safest option for me. He said the other OB’s in the office would agree. He talked about how even the female OBs all say they would all personally want a repeat c-section over trying for VBAC. His priority is safe mom and baby but a repeat c-section was the best way for him to have control over that.
The better but still not great: He mentioned that my first baby was big and since this one was measuring smaller it made him feel better. If I show up dilated and the baby is low and ready to go then it’s a different story. He talked about how in the end I’m going to do what I’m going to do and he can’t really stop me. He talked about how they would not use Misoprostol to induce and pitocin would be used instead (so induction is an option I felt?). I did read a post on Facebook of someone claiming he attended both of their VBACS.
Basically it ended in me saying “I’m sorry but I’m going to do what I’m going to do and I feel like my body can VBAC” and him saying “Let’s see how it goes. We won’t sway too far one way or the other”.
Im not scared or discouraged and am still excited to try for my VBAC, but I am unhappy with how the appointment went. I didn’t get to ask any questions about hospital policy, going past due date, or induction methods because he was coming down so hard on trying to persuade me not to VBAC. I was prepared to have to fight for my VBAC but I really wish I didn’t have to!
I have considered switching providers but I am worried that the other OBs in the office will have the same mindset or worse. I’m already so far along, and since its such a busy office with limited providers my next appointment isn’t scheduled until I am almost 38 weeks.
My plan has always been to labor at home as long as possible and hopefully show up super dilated or maybe just as the baby exits my vagina LOL. I am wondering who I might be able to call to find out which provider is most VBAC supportive. Am I allowed to test out another provider without completely switching care?
Does anyone have any advice or experiences that can help a sister out?