u/pier-spare0r

Honestly, it's a bit strange. You'll find they either don't have an email signature at all, or if they do, it's something useless like just initials, and maybe a phone number that no one answers. Half the time, punctuation marks are scattered all over the place. And sometimes they reply to a long, detailed email with "ok" or a single checkmark emoji.

Do people stop caring about email once they have enough people under them? I can't imagine they got promoted over the years while communicating in writing like this.

Of course, this isn't everyone. I've seen plenty of junior people with very bad email habits, and I've seen senior people who write clear, respectful, and useful messages.

But in general, am I the only one who has noticed this pattern?

I (31 years old) have been a Senior Consultant for about four years. I am committed and I meet my KPIs, but as soon as it hits 5 PM, I disappear. I don't answer to any Slack pings or open my inbox until the next morning. My private time is non-negotiable for me.

Two weeks ago, my director called me to offer me a Principal role. The increase is 25% along with "more influence on the department's direction." This is the step that everyone waits for. But I know the reality of this job. My current boss is glued to her phone all the time, spends Sundays fixing "urgent" spreadsheet errors, and she looks like she hasn't slept in six months.

When I told him I needed to think about it, he was shocked. He told me, "Normally, people fight for this spot." Honestly, the 25% increase doesn't compensate for my peace of mind or the long hikes I take on weekends. I am truly happy where I am.

I'm afraid that when I say no, I'll be put in the "not a team player" category or seen as someone who has already reached their peak. Because I'm in my early thirties and a woman in tech, I feel a strange pressure that I must keep getting promoted, otherwise someone younger and more ambitious will come and take my place. But I truly value my free time much more than the title.

I keep seeing posts from people casually mentioning that they make much more than 120k. I'm 22 years old and only make around 50k, so I'm curious to know how you got into these career fields, and what the path looked like until you got there.

For anyone who's curious, I'm in the Air Force and work in weather/forecasting. I have no idea which direction I want to go in after my 5-year contract ends.

I have a CCAF in meteorology, and I'm a little over halfway through a bachelor's in business administration, but I'm still very lost and don't know what to do when I leave the military.

I started a 9-6 job not too long ago, and I don't know how to explain it other than that I hate it. I miss having a random day off in the middle of the week; it used to make me feel like my life had room for something other than work.

Now I wake up almost every day with this disgusting feeling of anxiety and fear, and I spend the whole time fighting the urge to say I'm sick and just leave. You can't do anything!!! Does this feeling calm down over time?

I know a lot of people probably feel this way, but do you eventually get used to it, or are you supposed to just live with being miserable lol. I left a job a while ago that had me completely burned out, and this job is technically easier, but I still can't get rid of this feeling

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what do u think?

In one of my first office jobs, I was a bit naive, and honestly, I thought people at work supported each other.

There was a very friendly coworker, and a few of us would go out to lunch together once or twice a week. We'd joke around, vent about random things, and still get all our work done.

Then I noticed she hadn't come in for almost a week, and I didn't remember her saying she was going to take time off. I asked around to see if anyone knew what had happened, and suddenly everyone got weird. All I kept hearing was "I'm not sure" or "I have no idea," as if I was bothering them just by asking.

After a while, I found out she had been fired after a heated argument with a supervisor. As soon as she left, no one mentioned her again. It was as if saying her name out loud was against the rules. And this was after months of lunches, jokes, and what I thought was genuine camaraderie.

That situation changed how I look at work. I'm still friendly and professional, but I no longer confuse that with friendship. I go to work, do my job as best I can, and wait for my paycheck. Real friends are found outside the office.

I work as an analyst in a complex, regulation-heavy field at a massive company. There's an endless amount of paperwork, forms, protocols, compliance rules, and procedures you have to navigate to do the simplest thing. No single person understands how it all fits together because everyone lives in their own silo, focused on their small piece of the puzzle. To get any useful information, you have to ask incredibly specific questions that presuppose you already have a deep understanding of the entire system, which is obviously not the case for someone like me who started 8 months ago.

So, naturally, you'd expect there to be some form of training to get me up to speed, right? Wrong. There's none of that. I was thrown into the fire because my manager is a staunch believer in 'learning by doing,' which is just code for 'I don't have time to train you, so figure it out yourself.' Every project becomes a process of me banging my head against my desk, trying to pry any crumb of information from people about the next step. This is because a) I don't know what I don't know, so I can't even form the right questions, and b) as I mentioned, no one understands the big picture, and they all have conflicting opinions. Any given project involves at least 30 people, and I swear to God, 90% of them will completely ignore your emails unless their manager is CC'd. And the self-proclaimed 'experts' or the people who are supposed to sign off on things give replies so vague and noncommittal that I end up more confused than I was before.

I've received zero real guidance on how to navigate this insane bureaucratic maze. My manager is basically a ghost; I'm lucky if I can get 45 minutes a week with him to ask any large questions. The company itself offers no practical, on-the-job training, but they do have endless training modules on 'synergy' and 'agile mindsets,' which are so theoretical and high-level that they have absolutely no relevance to what I do every day.

And this isn't the first time this has happened to me. Every job I've had has been like this to some degree, and it makes me want to pull my hair out. It makes everything ten times harder than it needs to be for no good reason.

Yes, the title sums it all up. I'm in my mid-thirties, and honestly, I'm completely fed up with all of this. I'm still waiting to figure out what I want to be when I "grow up," if you know what I mean?

My career path has been a complete mess. For years, I was that person glued to their laptop, working all weekend, putting in countless extra hours, and constantly checking emails. Now? Almost nothing matters to me anymore. I'm currently in a very well-paying job, much more than many people my age. Honestly, I'm not even sure how I got here - probably just good at talking in interviews. The job itself is fine, the team is friendly, and the money is secure. But a part of me doesn't want to go to work again. There's no big, specific reason; I just feel completely drained by the mere thought of it.

I've been working since I was 17, and I genuinely feel like I've hit a wall. The more I observe, the clearer it becomes: most people, even at the highest levels, are just winging it. My job puts me in direct contact with executives, founders, and senior leaders in large companies - even well-known names - and the whole thing is complete chaos. It's the same story everywhere: no clear vision, micromanagement, insufficient support, messy workflows, constant power struggles, and a general inability to grasp basic concepts. It's insane to me that people in top positions can't understand basic reports that I understood in college. And what's even stranger? Everyone pretends this whole play is incredibly important. They're so focused on launching "the next big initiative," and in the end, everything collapses after a few months.

So yes, my ambition has pretty much evaporated. You can call me anything now except "driven." I constantly find myself wondering if it would be better to take a simple job and live a quiet life away from the city's hustle. I'm seriously considering leaving this stable, good job for something completely different. Maybe I'll become a baker, knead dough, and stop pretending to be excited about "that quarterly report," or "this client pitch," or "what Steve from marketing wants."

Am I starting to lose my mind, or are there other people feeling this exact same way?

I swear to God, if I get one more of these emails, I'm going to lose my mind. Every time I open one, I want to smash my laptop against the wall. I wish they would just be direct with me for once. Tell me my experience isn't a good fit or that I did poorly in the interview instead of this polite, generic nonsense.

The whole thing is really demoralizing, tbh. I don't even know why I'm still applying. I feel like I'll never be able to escape my current job and that this has just become my reality. Does anyone else feel this way?