u/psychobats

Of course we’ve all known that Hayley & Taylor have been friends for the longest time, but T’s wedding has rubbed me the wrong way. I’ve never liked her (sorry) but the whole public spectacle of her wedding feels so weird in this current climate (and maybe any climate?). Obviously Hayley wouldn’t skip out on T’s wedding but she usually does so much to push back against capitalism and all the gross stuff that comes with it. At the end of the day they’re friends and I wouldn’t miss a friend’s wedding for the world but this wedding stuff is weird af.

I’m on my first watch and am currently at the end of season 4.

I really just needed to say somewhere, to the universe, that I have NEVER felt more understood as a 26 year old, neurodivergent woman than I am right now watching girls.

Hannah comes off SO autistic to me (I know she has OCD - which I also do) and it makes me feel so comfortable and at home. I’ve also never seen a character so incredibly similar to myself. I don’t know if it’s Lena’s writing of Hannah or Lena’s essence working through the character of Hannah but she feels like the most human TV show character I’ve ever seen. I read a lot of books where the main female character is a piece of shit, honest, freak of a woman (my favourite genre) and Girls hits the nail on the head for me when it comes to flawed women and realistic portrayals of womanhood.

I wanted to know if other autistic people feel the same about girls? And especially Hannah and Adam lol

This may be a little long but I could do with a bit of a rant.

Myself and my fiancé got engaged in Nov 2025 and from the start we knew we’d be on a tight budget with our wedding. (Aug 27 wedding)

We started planning pretty much straight away and decided to go with a local register office for our ceremony and then an even more local (down the road from our house) community centre for the reception. Together the costs of both are around £800ish. A local pub is also setting up a bar at the reception as part of the wedding ‘package’ for no extra cost. My mum has kindly offered to pay for catering which we haven’t sorted yet.

Right now I’m looking at white bridesmaid dresses to wear as my wedding dress, and we’ve bought a lot of our decorations from Temu (I know, not great). We bought my wedding ring that cost £50 and I have my shoes which cost £28.

A long time friend of mine got engaged around a month ago to someone she’s been with for not that long (not that that’s important - when you know you know)! I’ve been asked to be a bridesmaid for them. They have a much larger budget, around 15K and are getting married in a stately home type building with full catering, two night hotel stay, hair and makeup for the bridesmaids and are kindly paying for the bridesmaid dresses & hair and makeup. My friend’s dress budget is £2K. Something that’s bothering me is that their wedding venue is a few hours away and will mean I have to stay in the hotel section of the venue which will cost me £300 for a two night stay. This is £300 that could go towards my wedding which is two months later. I know it’s such a special thing to be part of her big day but £300 is SO much money to me.

I can’t help comparing myself and the wedding I will be having to my friend’s, even though I know we’re in different places money wise and that of course if myself and my fiancé had the means, we’d be having a bigger wedding. I feel embarassed about my dress choices and my ring and all the pieces I’ve bought so far, even though I like them to an extent. I can’t afford the type of dress I would love, so I have to keep my mind set on what I can afford.

I don’t want to be a jealous person, and especially not jealous of my beautiful friend as she means the world to me. It isn’t a nice feeling. But the embarassment feels worse, I feel like no matter what I do, no matter how hard I try or how much money we spend, it’ll always be a crappy little cheap wedding. I don’t want to think of the big day that way. All I want is to marry my wonderful fiancé.

Any advice or guidance would be so appreciated, I just want to feel better about it and feel positive again because I’ve dreamed of and waited for my wedding day my whole life ❤️😊

This may be super obvious but my partner asked me yesterday why they have the two spheres and I didn’t actually know how to answer 😂 I assumed it was a stylised choice and something to do with the skull/panda design but I’ve never actually read why that is or what it represents.

Does anyone know?