Escalating during soothing steps
My 3 month old seems to have entered the sleep regression. He used to nurse and then transfer drowsy but awake, sometimes awake. Now he wakes up immediately upon transfer and is screaming. I have been using the steps in the 3-4 month old guide but it seems to be escalating him? Like he will cry worse when I put the hand on the chest, pat him, etc. the pacifier can be hit or miss. I basically have to choose between letting him cry and picking up to cuddle/nurse.
If I nurse or cuddle without letting him be fully drowsy on transfer it starts the escalation all over again.
We aim for about a two hour wake window before bed and he doesn’t always seem that tired.
From what I understand he’s too young for crying it out and honestly I’ve been crying while he cries because I feel like an awful mom but I also don’t want to make the sleep association be that he needs such help. What do I do?