We're optimising our clients like they're machines and i'm guilty of this too
I've been sitting with this for a while and i want to write it down honestly because i don't see it said enough in nutrition spaces. and i think we're collectively doing something a little bit wrong.
I track everything. I have a notion database for every client. i know their sleep scores, their hrv trends, their protein targets to the gram, their check-in cadence, their last three weeks of cronometer data. I can tell you exactly where client seven is in her programme and what her biggest adherence gap is and what intervention i'd try next.
and last week she messaged me saying she feels like a spreadsheet.
that one sat with me for a few days.
What's happening
Somewhere in the last few years (post covid) the nutrition and health coaching space got very online and very optimisation-brained and i think it happened gradually enough that most of us didn't notice we'd drifted.
there's a tool for everything now. food logging, sleep tracking, recovery scores, habit streaks, check-in forms, progress photos, biometric trends. and all of it is genuinely useful. i'm not saying throw the oura ring in the bin. i use this stuff. i recommend it.
i think a lot of practitioners started relating to clients mostly through dashboards and quietly lost the thing that made them actually good at the job in first place
The best session i've had in the last six months was with someone who came in and said i don't really know what's going on i just feel off and we just talked and no data was really involved. just actually listening for an hour and by the end of it something clicked for her that no amount of cronometer data would have found.
Where i think it goes wrong
the tools are really good at telling you what is happening. they are genuinely bad at telling you why and they are completely useless at telling you what a specific human being actually needs to hear right now in this moment to feel like the change they're trying to make is possible.
that last part is the job. the data is supposed to serve that. somewhere along the way i think some of us started serving the data instead.
i see it in how we talk about clients sometimes. in the communities, in the discords, in the group supervision calls. the language gets very clinical very fast. client is non-adherent. client's protein is consistently under target. client hasn't logged in 11 days. and all of that might be true and also completely miss the fact that the person is going through something and logging food is the last thing on their mind and what they need is for someone to notice and just ask how they are.
What i'm trying to do differently
i'm not throwing out the tools. the setup i run is still pretty systematic and i think that structure is genuinely useful for my clients. but i'm trying to be more intentional about what the tools are for and what they're not for.
the tools are for me. they help me show up prepared, remember context, catch follow-ups. that's legitimately valuable and i'm not pretending otherwise.
the tools are not the relationship. the relationship is the relationship. and it is built in the moments where you put down the dashboard and just talk to someone like a person who is having a hard time trying to change something that is genuinely hard to change.
i'm also trying to notice when i'm reaching for a metric because it's useful vs because it's easier than sitting with ambiguity. sometimes a client is struggling and there's no data point that explains it and the instinct is to add another tracking layer to find the signal and sometimes the right answer is just to ask a better question.
i wish someone had said this to me earlier
You see, people hire us because they've already tried the spreadsheet and it didn't work and they need something the spreadsheet can't give them. But we end up giving them ton of trackers again.
the optimisation stuff is the scaffolding and if you're earlier in your practice and you're spending more time building out your notion setup and i think that might be worth examining. the system will not save a session that goes wrong because you didn't actually hear what someone was trying to tell you.
happy to talk about any of this in the comments. genuinely curious if other practitioners are feeling this or if it's just me.