u/redditbabylove

We were already leaving Ontario Mills because dogs aren’t allowed. An armed security officer still told us: “I’m gonna kick you out of the mall.”

I had an interaction at Ontario Mills today that left me questioning how private mall security is trained to deal with customers who are already complying.
Here’s the context, because I don’t want to leave out the reason we were asked to leave:
We had a dog with us. Ontario Mills does not allow dogs inside, so security told us we needed to leave. We did not refuse. We were already leaving the mall.
I’m not disputing the mall’s right to enforce its no-dog policy.
That isn’t the issue.
The issue is what happened while we were complying.
During the interaction, one of the security officers, who was visibly equipped/armed and acting in an official security capacity, told us:
“I’m gonna kick you out of the mall.”
The statement is captured on video with audio.
And that’s the part I can’t reconcile.
Kick us out for what? We were already leaving.
There was no need to convince us to leave. We understood that dogs were not permitted and were on our way out.
So what exactly was the security officer trying to accomplish by escalating the language?
If “kick you out” simply meant “you need to leave,” that instruction was already being followed.
If she meant that she was prepared to physically remove us, then that raises an even more serious question:
Why would physical removal even be contemplated against customers who were already voluntarily leaving?
Maybe “kick you out” was just an expression.
But when those words come from someone exercising security authority while visibly carrying security equipment/a weapon, customers should not have to determine in real time whether “kick you out” is figurative or whether physical action is about to follow.
There was an extremely simple professional way to handle this:
“Dogs aren’t permitted inside the mall. Please take the dog outside.”
We would have left.
In fact, we were leaving.
That is why I think this raises a broader issue than whether somebody was simply “rude.”
Private security officers are given significant authority by property owners. With that authority should come an obligation to use proportionate, professional and de-escalatory communication, particularly when the person on the receiving end is already complying.
I have preserved the original video and audio. I plan to formally ask Ontario Mills/Simon Property Group to preserve its surveillance footage and answer several questions:
What threat or resistance was the security officer attempting to overcome if we were already leaving?
Does Simon consider “I’m gonna kick you out of the mall” appropriate language for security personnel addressing customers who are complying with an instruction?
What did the officer mean by “kick you out”?
And if physical removal was being contemplated, what exactly were we doing at that moment that supposedly made physical intervention necessary?
I understand some people will say, “It’s private property. If they tell you to leave, leave.”
I agree.
That’s exactly what we were doing.
And that is precisely why I’m questioning what happened next.
Having the authority to enforce a rule and having a legitimate reason to escalate an encounter are not the same thing.
So I’m curious, especially from people who work in security, law enforcement, property management, or risk management:
If customers are already voluntarily leaving after being told about a no-dog policy, is this how professional mall security is supposed to handle the situation?

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u/redditbabylove — 11 days ago

I can’t find a job with anything

I honestly don’t know what to do anymore. Should I end myself?

I’m a single mom with two kids. I’ve been desperately looking for work for the past five months. I’ve applied everywhere — milk tea shops, restaurants, retail, offices, even law enforcement related positions. I follow up, I go in person, I speak to managers, I leave my phone number, and they always tell me they’ll call or email me back. But nothing ever happens.
I have bachelor and master degree. Work experience. Just nothing they want.
The hardest part is that my entire schedule revolves around my children. I have to take them to school in the morning and pick them up after school. The school is not close to where we live, and most jobs are far away with terrible commute times. A lot of jobs want early morning shifts, night shifts, or completely open availability, which I simply cannot do as a single parent with no support system.
I don’t have any family here.

I feel trapped. If I work far away, I can’t get back in time for my kids. If I prioritize my kids’ schedule, employers don’t want me because my availability is limited.

Financially, I’m drowning. I don’t even know how I’m going to pay rent next month. The stress has gotten so bad that I feel physically sick every day. I feel isolated because everyone around me has their own lives and problems, and after a while people stop responding when you reach out.

Has anyone else been through something similar? How did you survive this stage of life?
If I don’t have income by next month, I’ll end it

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u/redditbabylove — 3 months ago