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I (24f) am currently going through medical menopause due to endometriosis however my mother (51) is saying that she hasn't started menopause yet.

My grandparents on my mum's side died young so my mum had no one to ask about menopause, and neither have I, as officially myself (24) am the first one to go through this. Due to that, I know a fair bit about menopause thanks to experiencing it myself currently.

Now this is where the issues start. I believe my mum is menopausal, and with good reason. I have noticed she is having brain fog, irritability and rage, constipation she is also having night sweats, cramping and hot flushes a lot, this is noticeable because she is a very cold person. She has also been on the pill since after I was born, she used to have breakthrough bleeding and she hasn't in a couple of years now.

I am living at home due to my disabilities currently. Unfortunately she is in denial about the fact that she could have possibly started menopause, and it is starting to really grate on me and my dad. I have tried to bring up the possibility to her numerous times and she just won't listen. I think she could really benefit from HRT or even antidepressants as I have, but unless she accepts that it's possible that she is of a certain age she won't see a doctor.

And due to her not seeing the signs in herself she is denying that my menopause symptoms verified by my doctor's are even related to menopause.

I know it may be difficult coming to terms with the fact her youngest child is now 'a woman of a certain age ' and it may make her feel old. Ive only been going through it for a few months myself, and her symptoms started before mine I believe.

I want to show her that menopause isn't the end of the world, it doesn't mean you are past it, but I don't know where to start, and I just want to help her, and show her there are good parts too.

I don't know what to do, I'm stuck and I'm the ONLY member of my family with any perspective on this. I'm young and disabled and it's difficult managing my OWN menopause and trying to manage hers too.

Ive been as gentle and supportive as I can be

Sorry this is long, I lost my train if thought several times now ( thanks brain fog) any advice or support is much appreciated, and if you read this far, thankyou

As the title says, I'm 23, and I have severe endometriosis, so tomorrow I pick up my medication to start going through medically induced menopause, as thus far nothing else has worked and they want me to try this first opposed to a hysterectomy.

I don't know what to expect as my mum is an only child and at 51 has not started menopause, and unfortunately her mum died before starting it herself. Unfortunately I can't ask other family members, because they are dead, except my gran on my dad's side.

I have been told I will probably get very angry, and have hot flashes, but that's all she said

The only thing my gynaecologist said is that I might develop osteoporosis, and something about bone density.

I would appreciate if anyone could tell me what to expect or look out for, give me advice etc

Thankyou

Really sad that we can't make it due to our heat intolerance

£75 Ono

Please enjoy it for me