u/sugarloadedtea

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My Elder Sister

- Scored 95% in 12th boards

- Took PCB ( parents were happy)

-Didn’t prepare for NEET in 11th-12th

-Parents sent her to offline coaching in Kota

-- Got multiple chances and drops

Her Journey

- 1st drop → scored 550

-2nd drop (online) → scored 620

- 3rd drop (offline) → left midway because she got a college through previous score in counselling

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Me

-Took PCM too ( parents were not happy)

- Scored 85% in boards initially (around 90 after rechecking)

- Was not sent to offline coaching because my result was considered “not good enough”

- Studied online during 11th-12th while managing:

- severe anemia

-regular schooling

- household work

-constant guests/disturbance at home

- Couldn’t clear JEE Main properly through online prep

My Situation ( when I decided to take a drop)

- Told my parents I can’t stay disciplined in online coaching because my home environment isn’t suitable for studying

-Still not allowed for offline coaching/drop

- Got only “one last chance” warning

- Qualified enough for some state colleges / North-Eastern NITs, but parents still won’t send me

- Not allowed to go to DU or good universities through CUET either

- If I do BSc, they want me to stay home and attend a nearby college

- Asking for a second offline drop, but instead they want me to change my stream completely

My Elder Sister

- Scored 95% in 12th boards

- Took PCB ( parents were happy)

- Didn’t prepare for NEET in 11th-12th

- Parents sent her to offline coaching in Kota

- Got multiple chances and drops

Her Journey

- 1st drop → scored 550

- 2nd drop (online) → scored 620

- 3rd drop (offline) → left midway because she got a college through previous score in counselling

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Me

- Took PCM too ( parents were not happy)

- Scored 85% in boards initially (around 90 after rechecking)

- Was not sent to offline coaching because my result was considered “not good enough”

- Studied online during 11th-12th while managing:

- severe anemia

- regular schooling

- household work

- constant guests/disturbance at home

- Couldn’t clear JEE Main properly through online prep

My Situation ( when I decided to take a drop)

- Told my parents I can’t stay disciplined in online coaching because my home environment isn’t suitable for studying

- Still not allowed for offline coaching/drop

- Got only “one last chance” warning

- Qualified enough for some state colleges / North-Eastern NITs, but parents still won’t send me

- Not allowed to go to DU or good universities through CUET either

- If I do BSc, they want me to stay home and attend a nearby college

- Asking for a second offline drop, but instead they want me to change my stream completely

My boyfriend becomes emotionally cold every time I set a boundary. Recently he got upset because I didn’t want to share my password, and even after I explained my feelings calmly, he started acting distant again. This isn’t the first time either whenever I say “no” to something or try to maintain a personal boundary, his behavior changes and he becomes dry/withdrawn.

What hurt me more is that today I was already sick and dealing with cramps/dizziness, but because of that disagreement he still kept acting cold instead of emotionally supportive. It made me feel really alone.

I’m starting to wonder if this is insecurity, ego, or an actual red flag. Is this normal in relationships or is it emotionally unhealthy?