Being raised as an afghan, hard to get along with non afghans specially to marry
Salam, I don't know if this will ever be read lol but well! So I wanted to express myself on an issue. I was born in France and I am Afghan. The thing is that, even if I was born in France, I never felt French, as I feel like the afghan identity is very strong and didn't let any place to anything to develop inside of me lol. Because, one thing is true, it's that my parents really shaped an afghan identity that is very rooted in me. This identity has been obviously built thanks to a lot of idealisation of the afghan culture. During my life in France, I have never ever met an afghan person, neither in school or in the daily life. So, I ended up feeling a lot of emptiness/loneliness due to this. As the only moments i felt happy was when I was surrounded by Afghans (the ones we know since my parents came in France around the 80's), my family, my cousins. When I listen to musics, it's only afghan ones, old ghazals that transport you to a time that don't really exist today. The thing is that, due to this, when I think about the future, I really don't see myself marrying a man that is not afghan. And it's not the best thing to say, because, as muslims we should be very open to every ethnicities, and not be this close minded. And the other problem is that I idealise our culture so much, too much.. So, it's not a big one, but it is the issue, or just a thought about it.