u/throwsawaythrownaway

My daughter seriously over thinks math. She has real issues with saying the wrong answer. What I mean is if she even thinks the answer might be wrong, she won't say it. I'm asking here because this seems to be specifically related to math. She doesn't overthink in other classes the way she does for math. (That's why I'm asking here)

She knows almost all of her times tables. She only struggles with 7's and 8' once you get past 5. The rest she knows, and can do quickly unless specially promoted by an assignment. But she's so scared of getting a wrong answer she won't try.

Anyone have any tips to get past this road block? Or should I be focused more somewhere else? Again, she only seems to have this issue specifically with math which is why I asked here.

I'm going to ACL with some family and my daughter. Due to some limitations within the group, we won't be close to the stage. I've been to plenty festivals before where I could not even see the band playing. But I had a blast. I don't know why I feel so different about this one, but I'm mostly worried my daughter won't have a good time if we're not front and center.

Please forgive me if this doesn't make sense I keep trying to type it all out and it never feels right.

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Since about April 2024, my daughter has been admitted to the ICU several times for asthma attacks brought on by Rhinovirus. She was nearly intubated once, but the bipap was only juuuuust sufficient enough to keep that from happening.

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Last month was her most recent admission. When she did a new round of lung tests. On her spirometry report, if I understood everything correctly, the mid flow numbers were below average. They had her do the test 5 times, and each one was "worse" than the last, they said it was fatigue.

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Then they gave her Albuterol, and waited 10 minutes. Then all.of her numbers....got worse. Not better. Again, they said it's just fatigue.

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I asked them if there's anything we can do other than the symbicort and daily allergy pill. They said wash your hands and cover you mouth when you cough. I pressed a bit because when we go to the ER, she goes from almost no symptoms to ICU admission in 4 hours or less, depending on how quickly we go in. It's terrifying.

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This is the part of the post where I don't know what else to say. I can't keep her locked inside a bubble. But sitting in the ICU for a week every time she catches Rhino doesn't seem good either..... I don't know.

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Should I find a new pulmo? Is this really just the way it is?

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We just got back from our 3rd stay in the ICU in 2 years. My daughter is 9. We have her on a daily steroid, allergy meds, and albuterol rescue inhaler but she's had Rhinovirus each admission so there seems to be a trend forming.

Anyway. We have a finger monitor I use sometimes when she's sleeping, but I like the idea of something she can wear all night and I can see on my phone. I'd really only like to use it when I can tell she's got a cold coming on. Maybe it's just parent guilt, but if there's something that can indicate we need to go sooner than we have been, I'd like to try.

I know a lot of it is kind of just chasing symptoms once they show especially since she's on a steroid and allergy meds already.