u/toomanyoars

We have my father's oncology appointment on Tuesday. We tried to get him into an oncologist at a great center a few hours away but they can't get him in until the end of July and he doesn't want to wait so he wants to go to our local one to get treated. For transparency he is 80 and has a bit of dementia so I am his point person for his healthcare. Since our local hospital and oncologists don't have the experience a larger hospital does and because it's my Dad I've thrown myself into as much research as I can and tried to answer his questions to the best of my ability but I've realized what I need most is experience. If you were to do your treatment over again is there anything you would have done differently? What questions would you have asked or did you ask your oncologist? We have a choice between two oncologists, what should we be looking for in a good one?

Edit for clarity: He has stage 3 cancer on the right side only 4+3, PSA 3.7 and PET shows no spread into lymph or bone

My 80 year old father was just diagnosed. We live in a very small rural area and his doc instantly, before even the PET scan suggested removal of the prostate. I am his advocate so I'm going to have to have a crash course as fast as I can to be able to support him. I have tried to push for an oncology consult at a specialty hospital a few hours away but my father trusts his doctor. He values my input but I will need some education to formulate a legitimate (in his eyes) reason. Suggestions please on where to begin before I meet with his physician.