Image 1 β€” I finally had a women only meetup that was TOO big 😭
Image 2 β€” I finally had a women only meetup that was TOO big 😭

I finally had a women only meetup that was TOO big 😭

I've been doing these women-only meetups for a while now, but I realised I've never actually given them a name.

So from now on, they're TwoXMeets ♀️

And yesterday's TwoXMeets was probably the biggest one I've done so far.

I've always kept my meetups small.

Not because I don't want more women to come, but because I want everyone to actually get a chance to talk.

Yesterday, a lot more women showed interest than I expected. And honestly, I didn't want to tell someone "sorry, you can't come" when she was genuinely interested in being there.

Also, if you've attended my meetups, you know how many people cancel at the last minute πŸ˜‚ So I let everyone in.

And well this time almost everyone actually showed up.

The TwoXMeets was about careers, the choices women make around their careers, and everything that affects those choices.

Because for women, a career isn't always just about "what job do you want?"

Sometimes it's about marriage.

Sometimes it's about moving because your husband got transferred.

Sometimes it's about giving up something you worked years for because you have young children.

Sometimes it's about not working because your in-laws don't want you to.

And then somehow, if you don't earn enough, you're a gold digger. If you don't work, you're dependent. If you prioritise your career, you're selfish.

Anyway, we talked about all of that and SO much more.

There were stories about COVID and the recession, career setbacks, switching into completely different fields, failures, successes, starting over, and figuring things out much later than you expected.

And when you put a bunch of women in a space where nobody is judging anyone, something interesting happens.

People start opening up.

At one point, after hearing so many stories, one woman said she didn't feel like her own story was worth sharing.

She felt she hadn't suffered enough.

And I told her: it doesn't work like that.

Just because someone has suffered more doesn't mean your suffering doesn't exist.

We all have different capacities. We deal with things differently. And if something hurts you, it hurts you.

You don't need the most tragic story in the room to deserve to tell yours.

You are the hero of your story. And it wouldn't be your story without you.

And honestly, this meetup reminded me exactly why I usually keep these meetups small.

The conversation went on for SO long and in so many directions that, for the first time, not everyone got a chance to speak.

But even then, nobody seemed particularly bothered.

Because sometimes you don't need to tell your own story.

Sometimes hearing another woman describe something you've gone through yourself, and seeing that she made it out the other side, is enough.

But I don't want this conversation to stop with the women who could make it to Cubbon Park.

Not every woman can come to an offline meetup. And I obviously can't do these every Sunday.

So I'm starting something new. 🧸

Pyjama Talks.

Same kind of conversations. Just online.

I'm planning the first one for next Sunday (23rd August) at 8 PM, and I'll be keeping it small so people actually get to talk.

More details later this week.

So from now on:

🌳 TwoXMeets = offline (gardens, cafes)

🧸 Pyjama Talks = online (Gmeet)

And both are just women getting together and having conversations we don't always get to have elsewhere ❀️

If you'd like to join the first Pyjama Talk, comment or DM me and I'll let you know when registration opens.

Women only. Verification required.

u/twoxtopia β€” 3 days ago

🌿 Happening TODAY (16th Aug) : Women’s Career (late start, huge gap, unfulfilled dreams) Meetup at Cubbon Park 3 PM

If you've been thinking about joining one of my meetups but kept putting it off, this is your last-minute reminder 😁

A few women have already joined for today, and we’re meeting at Cubbon Park at 3 PM.

Today’s conversation is around careers that don’t always follow a straight line - career breaks, switching fields, starting late, figuring things out as you go, taking unexpected turns, and everything in between.

You don't need to have an interesting career story either. You can come, listen to other women, share your experiences if you feel like it, or just hang out. πŸ’œ

🌱 Women only - all ages welcome

πŸ—£οΈ Talking is optional, listening is completely fine

πŸ’° Free entry

πŸ“… Today, 16th August (Sunday)

⏰ 3 PM - 6 PM

πŸ“ Cubbon Park

If you'd like to join, comment or DM me now and I'll send you the exact location and gate entry after verification.

Would be lovely to have a few more women join us today! 🫢

PS : If you can't make it to this meetup, DM me to know more about the next meetup that I'll be doing next Sunday before posting about it here on reddit.

Also let me know if you girls are interested in a virtual meetup someday!

u/twoxtopia β€” 4 days ago

Women-only Meetup: Careers Gaps, Late Starts, Career That Don’t Always Make Sense - Edition 3 @ Cubbon Park, 16th Aug (3-6pm)

You asked for it again, so I'm doing it for the 3rd time! 🫢

🌱 Theme : Started late? Took a break? Careers that don't always make sense

Started late? Took a career break? Changed careers? Still figuring things out? Wondering how everyone else seems to have their life together except you? 😭

This is a space to talk honestly about unconventional career paths, unexpected pivots, career breaks, changing your mind, big dreams, confusing decisions, and all the things that don't fit neatly into a LinkedIn profile.

No perfect 5-year plans. No β€œyou should have figured it out by now.”

Just women sharing experiences, learning from each other, and figuring things out together πŸ’œ

(Talking is optional, you can simply listen too)

πŸ“… 16th August (Sunday), 3 PM - 6 PM
πŸ“ Cubbon Park
πŸ’° Free Entry
πŸ‘© Women only (all ages welcome)

Whether you're just starting your career, switching paths, taking a break, or still have absolutely no idea what you're doing you're welcome.

I have added the pictures of the last time I did this in Cubbon park and Lalbag. Read more about how that went here :

  1. 26th April, Lalbag Meetup Recap
  2. 31st May, Cubbon Park Meetup Recap

PS: If you're coming, please comment or DM 🫢 And please bring umbrellas and some mat to sit on the ground.

u/twoxtopia β€” 8 days ago

14 Women-Only Meetups Later πŸ‘€ What Are We Talking About This Sunday? You get to decide!

Bangalore women, help me choose the topic for my 14th women-only meetup this Sunday, 16th August! 🫢🏻

πŸ’” EXES, HEARTBREAK & THE THINGS WE NEVER SAID

The red flags we ignored. The stupid things they did. The stupid things we did πŸ˜‚ The unsaid words. The trauma. Whether we actually healed or just got better at pretending.

Basically, a little bitching + storytelling + β€œgirl, WHAT were you thinking?” session.

πŸ’Ό CAREER, GAPS & FIGURING LIFE OUT

Late career starts. Huge career gaps. Unconventional careers our parents still don't understand. Not knowing what you want to do. Or finally figuring it out and loving what you do.

This one's for both β€œI have no idea what I'm doing” and β€œsomehow I figured it out” women πŸ˜‚

🌳 The plan: Most likely Cubbon Park, sitting on the grass in a circle and talking.

No judgement. No fixing. No hate.

Just women listening to women ❀️

Speaking is optional. Listening is absolutely fine.
Women of all ages are welcome.
You don't need to have the perfect story or even a story at all. Just come hang out.

And yes, we support women's rights AND women's wrongs πŸ˜‚
(it's a joke)

If Bangalore decides to rain, we'll improvise. We'll walk & talk with umbrellas, or move to one of two metro-accessible backup options: Forum Mall, Konanakunte or Mantri Mall, Malleshwaram.

Cubbon is still the most likely plan though!

I've done the career meetup twice and the heartbreak meetup once before.

πŸ“ˆ Career β†’ more attendance both times
πŸ’” Heartbreak β†’ fewer people offline, but MUCH more trauma, feelings and stories and even more discussion online.

I'm adding a few photos from previous meetups as well as the recap post so you can see what these conversations actually look like.

  1. Career
    1. 26th April, Lalbag Meetup Recap
    2. 31st May, Cubbon Park Meetup Recap
  2. Heartbreak : 22nd March, Lalbag Meetup Recap

So Bangalore women, what are we doing this Sunday?

πŸ’” EXES
or
πŸ’Ό CAREER

Vote/comment below and free your Sunday! πŸ‘€β€οΈ

PS : This will be a women only, free entry meetup.

u/twoxtopia β€” 9 days ago

🎀 Two free Saturday plans if you don't want to stay home (Poetry + Karaoke)

Happy Saturday, Bangalore! β˜€οΈ

If you're looking for something to do today, here are two free plans I'm considering.

πŸ“– Bangalore Poetry Festival

I'm heading to the Bangalore Poetry Festival today at 10 AM (and probably tomorrow too). It's a two-day festival with talks, performances and workshops.

I'll probably stay until I get tired or socially exhausted 😌

I've attached their schedule, so feel free to join whenever something catches your eye.

If you know me, come say hi and we can hang out!

If you don't know me and happen to spot a lone woman happily wandering around just whisper "TwoXTopia" 😜

πŸ“ Venue: Indiranagar Sangeetha Sabha, Indiranagar

πŸ•™ Time: 10:00 AM - 5:30 PM (1st & 2nd Aug)

πŸ’° Fee: Free

πŸ‘₯ Eligibility: Everyone

πŸ”— Registration Link : https://urbanaut.app/spot/bengaluru-poetry-festival

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🎀 Women-only Karaoke Meetup

The second plan (if the poetry festival doesn't completely drain my social battery πŸ˜…) is a karaoke meetup in Cubbon Park.

It's being organised by someone who first attended one of my meetups, and now she's hosting one herself. Love seeing that happen. ❀️

Bring an instrument if you have one, or just your voice. No judging. 🎢

πŸ“ Venue: Cubbon Park (Gate near the HAL Plane & Metro Station)

πŸ•’ Time: 3:00 PM - 6:00 PM

πŸ’° Fee: Free

πŸ‘© Eligibility: Women only

How do you identify the organiser?

She'll be standing near the gate.

If you see a lone woman staring into the distance with a slightly confused expression that's probably her. She's waiting for you. 🀭

Walk up and whisper "TwoXTopia? Karaoke?"

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Have a great Saturday! 🌸

Also, drop your own weekend plans in the comments. The more options people have, the better.

And remember, you don't always have to invite random Redditors to tag along. Sometimes it's nice just knowing someone else from Reddit is enjoying the same event somewhere nearby. 😊

Alright, bye. I'm getting late! πŸƒβ€β™€οΈ

u/twoxtopia β€” 19 days ago

Our women meetup group got kicked out of the cafe and that's when the real conversation began!

You can plan a meetup.

You can't plan the conversations that matter.

No matter how many meetups I host, one thing never changes.

I never know how they're going to end.

Last Sunday's women's meetup was called "Nobody Prepared Me For The Dishes: The Realities of Adulting."

The plan was simple.

Sit under the trees in Cubbon Park and spend a few hours talking about adulthood.

Bangalore had other plans.

Rain was in the forecast, so I already decided to host it in a cafe inside Forum Mall.

Women from completely different stages of life showed up. Students. Married women. Women who had just moved to Bangalore. Women who had been living independently for years.

After introductions and a couple of games, I asked everyone one question:

"When did you actually feel like an adult?"

Because honestly you don't magically become one at 18.

For me, it happened at 27, when I moved from my hometown to Bangalore for work.

Everyone had a different answer.

Some said marriage.

Some said not even marriage made them feel like adults.

Some said moving away for college.

Some said living alone.

And for many, there wasn't one defining moment at all. It happened gradually.

Listening to everyone's stories reminded me that adulthood isn't an age.

It's a collection of moments where you suddenly realize,

"Oh, nobody is going to do this for me anymore."

Then, just when the conversation was getting interesting, the cafe asked us to vacate the table.

This is exactly why I usually prefer Cubbon Park or Lalbagh. Parks don't ask you to leave because you've finished your coffee.

We'd barely scratched the surface.

Then one of the attendees smiled and said,

"My house is five minutes away if everyone wants to continue."

So all of us walked over.

We ended up sitting in her garden for another two hours.

Somewhere during that time, the conversation quietly drifted away from adulting.

Instead, we started talking about adult friendships.

Normally, I'd steer the discussion back.

As a host, I usually make sure everyone gets equal time to speak, and sometimes that means interrupting an interesting conversation so quieter people also get a chance.

This time I didn't.

Nobody was dominating.

Everyone was listening.

Everyone was adding something.

The conversation had naturally become what the group needed that day.

Ironically, I spent so much time making sure everyone else got to tell their story that mine never got told.

Eventually we found our way back to adulting.

We spoke about finding a permanent place to live, health, learning how to live alone, and trying to figure out what we're actually looking forward to.

Nobody had all the answers.

But for a few hours, nobody had to carry those questions alone.

Moments like these are why I've become so focused on building an offline community for women in Bangalore.

Not just to host meetups.

But to keep bringing women together until the city feels a little smaller. Until every woman in Bangalore either knows another woman through a meetup, or knows someone who knows someone.

Because that's how communities grow.

Not through WhatsApp groups.

Not through Instagram.

But through conversations where strangers leave feeling a little less like strangers.

This conversation clearly isn't over.

So this Wednesday (29th July) at 4 PM, I'm hosting an online discussion around the same theme for anyone who couldn't make it in person.

And if you've ever caught yourself thinking,

"Nobody prepared me for this part of adulthood"

You're welcome to join us.

PS : To join the conversation online, you need to be a woman. I'll DM you the Gmeet link once you verify yourself in the DM. And you would need to show your face for the first 2 mins and then you can turn your camera off. Speaking is optional, you can simply listen too.

Whether anyone joins the conversation or not, me and my friend will definitely do it!

u/twoxtopia β€” 23 days ago

Women-only Meetup Today (26 July, 3-6 PM) @ Chaayos, Forum South Bengaluru (Konanakunte Metro)

I usually host these meetups at Cubbon Park, but with the possibility of rain, we're meeting indoors today instead.

A few women have already decided to come, and you're welcome to join us too!

🌱 Theme: Nobody Prepared Me for the Dishes: The Realities of Adulting

Adulting is confusing. Some days you're celebrating your first salary, and other days you're wondering how everyone else seems to have life figured out.

This is a space to share experiences, learn from each other, exchange practical tips, celebrate small wins, and talk honestly about careers, finances, friendships, living independently, and everything else adulthood throws at us.

πŸ’œ No pressure. No pretending. Just women helping women.

(Talking is optional, you can simply listen too)

πŸ“… Today (Sunday), 3 PM - 6 PM

πŸ“ Chaayos Cafe, 2nd Floor, Forum Mall, Konanakunte Metro Station

πŸ’° Free (Just pay for your own food if you order anything.)

πŸ‘© Women only (all ages welcome)

Whether you are here to learn or to spread your knowledge. It doesn't matter. Everyone is welcome.

We'll probably explore the mall together after the meetup too!

PS : if you are coming please comment or DM.

u/twoxtopia β€” 25 days ago

I hosted 13 meetups in Bangalore. Here are 10 things I learnt

Over the past few months, I've hosted 13 women-only meetups around Bangalore in Cubbon Park and Lalbagh mostly. And sometimes across different cafes.

I went in thinking I'd simply be bringing strangers together.

Turns out, I learnt far more than I expected.

  1. People worry about fitting in more than they need to.

The biggest hesitation isn't usually, "Will I enjoy it?"

It's "Will I fit in?"

Age is one of the biggest concerns. Women in their 30s worry everyone will be younger. Younger women wonder if they'll have anything meaningful to contribute.

Then the meetup starts.

The older attendees share stories and life lessons. The younger ones bring fresh perspectives and remind us not to take everything so seriously.

By the end, everyone wonders why they were anxious in the first place.

  1. Smaller groups create stronger friendships.

I usually keep my meetups under 10 people.

Everyone gets a chance to speak.

Nobody feels left out.

And by the end, almost everyone has spoken to everyone else.

  1. Icebreakers matter far more than people think.

I rarely start with free conversation.

The first hour is usually filled with games that help everyone remember names, learn about each other and laugh together.

Once people are comfortable, the deeper conversations happen naturally.

  1. People remember conversations more than activities.

The activity gets people through the door.

The conversations are what they remember.

I've found that meaningful discussions create stronger friendships than simply doing something together.

  1. One honest story changes the entire room.

Usually, all it takes is one person opening up.

Suddenly everyone feels safe enough to share.

I usually keep my own story for the end because I'd rather spend the time asking questions and helping others speak first.

  1. Most people genuinely want to come.

Life just gets in the way.

I've learnt not to assume silence means disinterest.

Sometimes people need to hear about a meetup a few times before they finally decide to join.

I always nudge them in the DMs. I always let them know that a new meetup is happening if they have ever shown interest in coming to one meet-up

  1. Host the meetup even if only one or two people show up.

My very first meetup had only two attendees.

I'm really glad I didn't cancel it.

Some of those early attendees still come to my meetups today.

  1. Make it easy to say yes.

"Anyone up for coffee?" is much harder to commit to than:

πŸ“ the exact cafΓ©

πŸ•’ the exact timing

πŸ’¬ what you'll actually be talking about

People like knowing what they're signing up for.

  1. Plan from the attendee's perspective.

Every little decision becomes easier when you ask yourself:

"If I were attending this for the first time, what would make me feel comfortable?"

  1. If you're charging, make people feel the value.

For my weekly meetups, I usually keep them free.

For larger or special meetups, I charge only when I can clearly justify the cost through the venue, activities, food, games or goodies. And so far I've done 4 paid meetups since I first started hosting from 14th February onwards this year.

People don't mind paying.

They mind paying without understanding why.

That's all.

Now if you've been thinking about organizing a meetup, I'd genuinely encourage you to try. I would love to help you.

Bangalore doesn't need just more attendees.

It needs more people willing to bring communities together.

u/twoxtopia β€” 28 days ago

🌸 Hosting a Women-Only Meetup at Chaayos β˜•, Forum Mall, Konanakunte | Adulting: Venting, Solutions, Support & Games πŸ’œ [Sunday, 26th July | 3 PM – 6 PM]

🌱 Adulting is confusing.

Some days you're celebrating your first salary, and other days you're googling how taxes work or wondering if everyone else secretly has life figured out.

This isn't a space to simply vent, it's a space to learn from each other.

πŸ’¬ Join us for an honest conversation about the realities of adulthood: the challenges, the little wins that deserve celebrating, and the hacks that make everyday life a bit easier.

From managing money and navigating careers to maintaining friendships, living independently, and taking care of yourself, we'll swap stories, share practical advice, and leave with ideas we can actually use.

πŸ’œ No pressure. No pretending to have it all together. Just women helping women navigate adulthood, one conversation at a time.

πŸ“… When: 26th July, Sunday (3 PM – 6 PM)

πŸ“ Where: Chaayos Cafe, 2nd Floor, Forum Mall, Konanakunte Metro Station

πŸ’° Fee: None (Pay for your own food if you want to eat)

πŸ‘© Eligibility: Be a woman

🫢 Theme: Nobody prepared me for the dishes: The realities of adulting

(That's just the name, dishes won't be the only thing we'll be taking about)

✨ PS: This is a women-only meetup. It's open to women of all ages. Everyone can order whatever they wanna order at the cafe. And after the meetup, we can explore the mall.

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u/twoxtopia β€” 29 days ago

My weekend somehow went from a women's meetup to Blossom Book House to a Nightclub. And all with one broken hand πŸ₯Ί

My weekend went from a women's meetup to Blossom Book House to a nightclub. All with a broken hand πŸ₯Ί

My wrist has been giving me trouble all week, so I probably should've stayed home this weekend. Instead, I somehow ended up at a women's meetup, cleared out Karen Rose's shelf at Blossom Book House, and finished the weekend at a nightclub.

I usually spend my weekends hosting women only meetups, so this time I decided to attend other people's instead.

Started Saturday with a broken hand at a women-only meetup hosted by u/Pretty_prit who had first attended one of mine. It was oddly wholesome seeing someone who'd once attended my meetup now hosting one of her own. There were also two women I'd previously met through my own meetups, and another who tagged along after seeing my Reddit post.

Afterwards, I made the dangerous decision to stop by Blossom Book House.

I'd recently read one Karen Rose novel and become completely obsessed, so I walked out with an entire pile of her books. I couldn't even carry them properly because of my injured hand and had to ask someone to stack them onto my good arm. A very old man looked at the mountain of books and simply said, "Wow." All I could do was smile back sheepishly.

At the billing counter, the cashier asked, "Did you find her book?" Earlier, he'd told me there were only two Karen Rose books registered in their system. I smiled and replied, "I found everything." He seemed just as amused as I was.

That night, I barely slept. One of those nights where old memories and past failures decide to revisit you all at once.

Sunday took an even stranger turn.

I somehow ended up at a club despite being someone who neither drinks nor dances.

The invitation came from a woman I'd met months ago through a tiny Reddit meetup on "Thoughtful Conversations." Only three of us had shown up that day, but we stayed in touch. So when she asked if I'd join her and another friend for clubbing, I thought, why not?

I stuck to good food and soft drinks, spent most of the evening talking at the bar, eventually danced a little during the DJ set (Smooth Brain Girlie, to be precise), and then retreated to the back when my social battery needed a break.

The funniest part was that since I was one of the few sober people around, random men kept handing me their drinks while they went to the washroom. It also made me realise men and women have very different standards for who they'll trust with their drinks πŸ˜‚

At one point, I also had to stop a very drunk guy from messaging "I love you" to his boss on LinkedIn.

Perks of being the sober one, I guess.

Safe to say, this weekend reminded me why I love Bangalore. Every plan somehow turned into a story.

What did your weekend look like? Did you attend any meetups, discover a new place, or just come back with a story worth telling?

u/twoxtopia β€” 30 days ago

I've got one extra ticket for Smooth Brain Girly gig for Rs 137 [Humming Tree, Indiranagar, 19th July 5pm] [For Women Only]

So 4 of us women decided to go for the event and got a combo ticket.

One person fell sick. So now we have 1 extra ticket for Rs 137.

You can directly come to the venue and pay us.

We'll be dancing, eating and chatting.

If you are interested then DM or comment.

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u/twoxtopia β€” 1 month ago

Any women interested in joining me for this conversation meetup? [Story Coffee House & Bistro, Indiranagar, 5-7pm, 18th July]

I usually host a lot of meetups for women in Bangalore, but this time I'm sharing someone else's event because I've attended one of her previous meetups and genuinely had a great experience.

She was also part of one of my meetups, and since I have a decent reach on this subreddit, I thought I'd help spread the word and see if anyone would like to join us.

Theme: Good Girls Don't

Many of us grew up hearing things like:

- "Good girls don't talk back."

- "Good girls don't take up too much space."

- "Good girls don't wear sleeveless."

These messages often stay with us long after childhood and influence the choices we make as adults.

This is a small, women-only gathering to have honest conversations about the rules we inherited, the ones we've questioned, and the ones we're still trying to unlearn. There'll be high tea, a surprise activity, and a warm, confidential space to share and listen to.

πŸ“… Saturday, 18 July

πŸ•” 5:00 PM – 7:00 PM

πŸ“ Story Coffee House & Bistro, Indiranagar

πŸ’² Rs 649

Food and a non-alcoholic beverage are included.

If you'd like to come along with me, drop a comment or send me a DM!

PS : The pic is from the previous meetup of hers that I attended

u/twoxtopia β€” 1 month ago

I gathered 10 women in a room for a meetup. And nobody spoke to each other

Because the conversations weren't happening across the table.

They were happening across time.

The theme of my latest meetup (12th meetup) that happened on 5th July was simple:

"Converse with your past, present & future self."

We started with the past.

I've hosted enough meetups to know these conversations get emotional.

And yet, they still catch me off guard every single time.

Everyone had a story to tell.

β†’ Childhood memories.

β†’ Relationships.

β†’ Dreams that didn't work out.

β†’ Things they were too afraid to tell the people they loved.

β†’ Versions of themselves they'd quietly left behind.

Then it was my turn.

Halfway through sharing, I caught myself comparing my experiences to everyone else's.

Which was ironic, because I'd just asked everyone not to compare their stories.

Pain isn't a competition.

Every story deserves to be heard.

I'd buried parts of my own past so deeply that they didn't even come to mind. Not because they never happened, but because somewhere along the way, I'd forgotten them.

Things got heavy pretty quickly.

So we paused, laughed, and played a silly game.

Sometimes people just need a breather.

Then we moved on to the present.

I asked,

"Would your past self be surprised by how life turned out?"

The mood shifted almost instantly.

For a while, nobody spoke about what was missing.

Instead, we spoke about what we already had.

β†’ The people who stayed.

β†’ The little wins we'd forgotten to celebrate.

Then came the future.

Everyone imagined their own version of a good life.

β†’ Some dreamed of successful careers.

β†’ Some dreamed of families.

β†’ Some simply wanted peace.

β†’ Some imagined a world with zero misogyny, racism, xenophobia and homophobia.

Different dreams.

Same hope.

Before wrapping up, I asked one final question.

"What would your future self say to your current self to make that future a reality?"

By the end of the meetup, I realised something.

We may have started by talking to ourselves.

But somewhere along the way, those conversations became shared experiences.

Because hearing someone else's story has a funny way of helping you understand your own.

Maybe that's what a safe space really is.

Not a room where everyone has the same story.

Just a room where nobody has to hide it.

That's what I've been trying to build through these consistent meetups.

A place where women can find each other, build genuine friendships, and have conversations they don't often get to have elsewhere.

I'm taking a short break before hosting the next meetup, but I'll be back soon.

If this sounds like the kind of space you'd enjoy, leave a comment or send me a DM. I'll let you know when I host again.

And for everyone :

If your past, present and future self were sitting at the same table today,

What do you think they'd say to each other?

u/twoxtopia β€” 1 month ago

I'm hosting a women only meetup in Antarmann Cafe, [Domlur | Sunday 5th July, 3pm] : conversations, games, and meeting new people [2 spots remaining] 🌸

A few women have already signed up, and we're looking for just 2 more to join us today.

This is my 12th meetup so far.

This isn't your usual social meetup. We'll spend the afternoon through fun activities and conversations with your younger, present, and future self - reflecting on how far you've come, where you are today, and what you'd like to tell the versions of yourself across time.

It's a relaxed, welcoming space to meet other women, have meaningful conversations, and leave feeling a little lighter πŸ’œ

Please bring something that reminds you of your childhood (a soft toy, photo, trinket, or anything meaningful). We'll use it during one of the activities.

πŸ“… Sunday, 5th July

πŸ•’ 3:00 PM - 6:00 PM

πŸ“ Antarmann Coffee with Coach, Domlur [3km from Trinity Metro Station]

🎟️ β‚Ή299

The entry fee covers the charge for booking a private room for us. It also includes the goodies you'll get.

Women of all age groups are welcome. If you'd like to join, comment here or DM me

u/twoxtopia β€” 2 months ago

[Domlur | Sunday, 5th July, 3 PM - 6PM ] Women-only event : A conversation with your past, present & future self πŸ’œ

If you could spend a few minutes with your younger self, what would you tell her?

Would you comfort her, thank her, or tell her that everything eventually works out? And what about your present self or the person you're still becoming?

This Sunday, I'm hosting a women-only event built around those conversations.

Through lighthearted activities, thoughtful prompts, games, and meaningful discussions, we'll spend an afternoon reflecting on the different versions of ourselves, celebrating how far we've come, and thinking about where we want to go next.

No pressure to be vulnerable. No pressure to have life figured out. Just a warm, welcoming space where women can connect, share stories, and spend a few hours being themselves.

Please bring something that reminds you of your childhood - a soft toy, an old trinket, a photo, or anything that represents your younger self. We'll be using it in one of the activities.

Women of all age groups are welcome.

πŸ“… Date: Sunday, 5th July 2026

πŸ•’ Time: 3:00 PM - 6:00 PM

πŸ“ Venue: Antarmann Coffee with Coach, Domlur, Bangalore (3km from Trinity Metro station)

🎟️ Entry Fee: β‚Ή299 (Includes reservation for the private room and the goodies you'll get. Food not included)

Hope to see you there!

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u/twoxtopia β€” 2 months ago

What's everyone's plan for this weekend?

Today I'm planning to go to Whitefield. Found an event about expressing emotions through fashion in offlyn. It's basically an event with conversation about how fashion affects us. It's a women only thing. I'll be going there this evening.

Tomorrow early in the morning I'll be going for a thing called story walk in Domlur. Found this person through Instagram. I have been to multiple such walks organised by him in Indiranagar, Malleshwaram, etc. This story walk is open to all. Men, women and children (sorry for the Star War pun)

All my Sundays usually go in organising women only meetups on my own. For the first time in a long while I'm going somewhere where I'm not responsible for organising something. It's going to be fun. I'm excited.

I was also hoping to squeeze in a salon visit and shopping in between. Not sure if it's possible but a girl can hope.

So what are you people up to this weekend?

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u/twoxtopia β€” 2 months ago

Why are men here so triggered about women-only meetups? The comments on my last post answered that question.

A few days ago, I posted about a women-only meetup here. Asking women to join.

The post went up around 6 in the morning. The meetup itself was only a few hours away.

I'd been awake all night and was hoping to get some sleep before heading out.

Instead, I spent the next few hours reading comments.

Apparently I was discriminating against men.

Apparently charging money for a meetup meant I was commodifying loneliness.

Apparently hosting a women-only event was somehow predatory.

One person seemed particularly upset about the entry fee and kept coming back to argue about it throughout the thread (using multiple alternate accounts)

What I found interesting wasn't the criticism about money.

I've hosted 11 meetups so far (14 Feb, 2026 onwards) and 8 of them were completely free.

Most Sundays, you'll find me at Cubbon Park or Lalbagh hosting conversations for women. The occasional paid meetup is usually just to cover the venue, food, activities, games and goodies.

What surprised me was how personally offended some people seemed by the idea of women gathering without men.

And what confused me even more was this :

Bangalore already has countless mixed-gender meetups.

There are hobby groups, startup events, board game meetups, trekking groups, networking events and social gatherings happening every week.

I'm also far from the only person organising meetups in this city.

So whenever someone asks, "Why can't men join this one?", I genuinely wonder, why is the expectation that women should change their meetup instead of someone else simply organising the kind of meetup they want?

Anyway, this ended up being the smallest paid meetup I've hosted so far.

And somehow it became one of my favourite meetups.

The conversations went on much longer than expected. We spoke about dating disasters, relationships, awkward situations, life in Bangalore, funny stories and some genuinely difficult experiences.

At one point I mentioned the comments from that morning.

Everyone already knew about them. They had seen the thread.

So I asked, "If you saw all that happening, why didn't any of you reply?"

One woman said, "Because I didn't want those men landing in my DMs."

And honestly, that felt like a completely reasonable answer.

I've developed a thicker skin after months of organising these meetups.

Most women shouldn't have to.

And that's exactly why women-only spaces continue to exist.

Not because women hate men.

Not because anyone is trying to exclude people for the sake of it.

But because sometimes people just want one space where they don't have to explain or defend their presence.

Anyway, despite all the drama beforehand, we had a great time.

PS : The screenshots are from before the meetup. The photos are from after.

u/twoxtopia β€” 2 months ago

I'm hosting a women only meetup in Cafe Social Crust [Doddakalasandra Metro Station | Sunday 21st June, 3PM] : food, games, conversations & meeting new people 🌸 [3 seats remaining]

Hosting a small women-only social meetup today at Cafe Social Crust, Doddakallasandra.

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A lot of women have already joined to come. Posting this now in case you've got a free Sunday and wanting to do something fun.

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The vibe is pretty simple:

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🌸 meeting new people

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🎲 fun icebreaker and conversation games

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πŸ• food

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🎁 lots of goodies

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πŸ’¬ good conversations

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✨ a relaxed Sunday afternoon with other women

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A lot of women usually come solo, so don't worry too much about that part.

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I've had women from different age groups, professions and backgrounds attend these meetups over the last few months, and one of my favourite things is seeing complete strangers become comfortable with each other within the first hour.

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We'll also have a light discussion theme around funny, awkward and memorable dating experiences, but that's only one small part of the meetup. The focus is really on having a good time and meeting new people.

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πŸ“ Cafe Social Crust, Doddakallasandra

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πŸ—“ Sunday, 21st June

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⏰ 3 PM - 6 PM

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🎟 β‚Ή799 (includes food worth β‚Ή400, games, goodies and venue arrangements)

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Attaching pictures from some of our previous women's meetups as well.

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PS : If you've been thinking about coming but weren't sure whether you'd fit in, this is your sign. ❀️

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If you are coming and wanna have a have a personalized experience at this meetup, answer the following please :

  1. What's your favourite movie (a rom com would be nice) ?
  2. Who's your favourite actor?
  3. What's the favourite animal?
  4. Where are you from?
  5. Anything else you would like to tell me about yourself
u/twoxtopia β€” 2 months ago

Women of Bangalore: what's usually stopping you from attending a meetup where you don't know anyone?

10th May Meetup in Social JP Nagar

Women's Day Meetup (8th March) in Brik Oven, Indiranagar

One thing I've noticed after hosting women-only meetups is that almost everyone comes in with the same fear:

"What if everyone already knows each other?"

But funnily enough, most women who attend are coming alone too.

Different ages, different professions, different backgrounds, and somehow within an hour everyone's sharing stories, laughing, discussing life and making plans to meet again.

It's honestly one of my favourite things to watch happen.

I'm hosting another women-only social meetup tomorrow at Cafe Social Crust, Doddakallasandra. There'll be food, games, conversation cards and a lot of women who probably think they're the only person showing up alone.

I've already got women attending solo, which is usually how these meetups start.

So I'm curious:

For women who've thought about attending a meetup but never actually attended one, what's usually the biggest hesitation?

PS : Attaching a few pictures from some of my previous meetups.

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u/twoxtopia β€” 2 months ago

[Kanakapura Road | Sunday 21st June, 3PM] Women-only meetup at Cafe Social Crust: dating stories, games, food & meeting new people 🎭

10th May Mother's Day Meetup in JP Nagar Social [Paid] This meetup was about unconventional mommies like plant mommy, pet mommy, muscle mommy, etc

Women's Day Meetup in Brik Oven, Indiranagar 8th March [Paid]

30th May Meetup in Cubbon Park + Truffles Indirangar (A meetup about impostor syndrome in cubbon park that was free, and then dinner in Truffles where everyone paid for their own food)

19th April Meetup in Lalbag [Free] - Leaving home : The hardest leap, the best decision

31st May Meetup in Cubbon Park [Free] - Career Gaps, Unconventional Caeers P2

26th April Meetup in Lalbag [Free] - - Career Gaps, Unconventional Caeers P1

5th April Meetup in Lalbag [Free] - Sing along meetup

I'm hosting a small women-only meetup this Sunday at Social Crust, Doddakallasandra (The southernmost metro station on green line metro)

The theme this time is:

"Dating stories: funny, traumatic and everything in between"

Basically, if you've ever:

  • been ghosted after what felt like a perfect date πŸ‘»
  • ignored a red flag the size of a billboard 🚩
  • matched with someone who turned out to be completely different in real life 😭
  • ended up with a dating story your friends still refuse to let you forget

then you'll fit right in.

We'll be sharing dating experiences, listening to everyone else's stories, laughing at our questionable life choices and generally having a good Sunday afternoon together over food.

Not currently dating? That's completely fine too. A lot of the conversation ends up being about relationships, expectations, boundaries, friendships and life in general.

Also, if you're the kind of person who would love to share but doesn't want everyone knowing who said what, anonymity masks will be available throughout the meetup. 🎭

A lot of women usually come solo to these meetups, so don't worry too much about that part.

I've hosted quite a few women-only discussion meetups before and we have a lot of repeat attendees, which honestly makes me really happy.

πŸ“ Social Crust, Doddakallasandra
πŸ—“ Sunday, 21st June
⏰ 3 PM - 6 PM

β‚Ή799 is the entry fee (It includes food worth Rs 400, you'll get goodies and there will be games - quiz and icebreaker conversation games)

Exact location to put on map : 82, Swamy Vivekananda Rd 2nd Cross Rd, Narayana Nagar 1st Block, Bangalore City Municipal Corporation Layout, Bengaluru, Karnataka 560062

This is a paid meetup and includes food, venue arrangements and meetup activities.

Comment if you're interested!

Attaching pictures from some of my previous women-only meetups as well.

(I most do free meetups where the focus is on just one topic and talking about it. That happens in Cubbon and Lalbag, while once a month I do paid meetups, which happens in cafes and has food, goodies and games involved)

PS : This is only for women. Single, dating, married, unmarried, doesn't matter. Just be a woman. The meetup is about having a good time. Making it dating themed is just a minor part of it. All age groups welcome (above 18)

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u/twoxtopia β€” 2 months ago