u/twoxtopia

Everyone in Bangalore says they want friends.

But nobody wants to travel more than 5 km for them 😭

People will spend thousands on food delivery, gadgets, clothes, subscriptions but travelling a little extra for an experience suddenly feels like a huge task.

And yet this city has SO much happening every week : Concerts, theatre shows, book clubs, meetups, workshops and communities for literally every niche interest possible.

But somehow people still keep saying that “Bangalore is lonely.”

I honestly think a lot of people are waiting for friendship to happen conveniently.

Like those posts where people go “Anyone up for coffee in Jayanagar?”

My brother in Christ, Jayanagar itself is a continent 😭
At least specify the place, the vibe, what you’re looking for, what kind of conversation you want.

Because good social experiences don’t happen magically.

People need context to connect.

And honestly the more I organize meetups myself, the more I realize how much effort community building actually takes.

You need themes, structure, logistics, icebreakers, follow-ups, a comfortable environment and consistency.

And especially for women-focused spaces, a lot of thought goes into making sure everyone feels safe and included.

And even after doing all that, there will still be people who enthusiastically DM and then disappear when it’s time to actually show up 😭

That’s when I realized that people often love the idea of socializing more than the effort required for it.

And then there’s the other side of it.

The moment some men hear “women-only meetups”, they immediately try to enter the space because they think it’s secretly a dating opportunity.

I’ve genuinely had people DM me asking if I could help them “find girls” because I host these meetups. They even offer me money for it. Yikes.

That desperation is very visible offline, by the way.

Not every social space exists for romance.
Sometimes people genuinely just want friendship, comfort, conversation, and community.

And I think more people need to stop waiting for perfect company before experiencing life.

I’ve gone to concerts alone.
I’ve attended theatre shows alone.
I’ve travelled across the city alone for things that mattered to me.

Because if something feels worth experiencing, sometimes you just go.

I think Bangalore gives people endless opportunities to connect.

But connection only happens when people are willing to participate consistently instead of expecting friendship to magically appear at their doorstep.

When was the last time you went alone? How far are you willing to travel in Bangalore to have a good time and experience?

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If you've seen my posts here before, you probably know I host small topic-based meetups for women in Bangalore.

The format is very simple :
we sit on grass somewhere peaceful, introduce ourselves, and talk about one selected topic.

I started doing these because I genuinely think this is how a lot of women bond best, not necessarily through activities, but through conversations, shared experiences, listening, relating, and slowly feeling less alone in whatever phase of life they are in.

What surprises me every single time is how openly women speak, even when they’ve never met before. I think a lot of us are just looking for spaces where we can talk honestly without judgement, interruption, or the pressure to “perform.”

And speaking is completely optional, by the way. Some women mostly listen for the first meetup and open up later. Both are perfectly okay.

I also intentionally keep these meetups centered around one topic because it gives structure to the conversation. Otherwise, in large groups, people often don’t know where to begin or what to talk about. Having one shared theme makes conversations flow much more naturally.

Another reason I started hosting these is because making friends as an adult is hard, and many women want spaces like this but don’t want to handle the logistics themselves : deciding themes, coordinating people, picking locations, making sure the vibe stays comfortable, etc. So I thought I’d just take care of that part.

And honestly, it’s been beautiful seeing repeat attendees slowly become friends outside the meetups too.

These meetups are open to women across all age groups, by the way. We’ve already had women from very different phases of life attend, and that actually makes the conversations richer.

So far, I’ve hosted 4 meetups with different themes, and a lot of women who couldn’t attend earlier editions have been asking if I’ll repeat some topics.

So I thought I’d ask here:

Which one would you want for next Sunday (24th May)?

1. “Life lessons I wish I could tell my younger self” (https://www.reddit.com/r/BangaloreMeetups/s/4fLGagjrwm)
2. “The story of my ex, your ex, and also her ex” (https://www.reddit.com/r/BangaloreMeetups/s/H0ATZ4IlZO)
3. “Unconventional careers, career gaps & late starts” (https://www.reddit.com/r/BangaloreMeetups/s/1asnvcfuAv)
4. “Leaving home: the hardest leap, the best decision” (https://www.reddit.com/r/BangaloreMeetups/s/3OCbHH6UcT)

I’m also attaching reflection posts from previous meetups so people can get an idea of how these conversations usually go.

And if you have a completely different topic in mind, feel free to suggest it below. I’ll probably choose one from the list above for next Sunday (24th May), but I’d love to use new suggestions for future meetups too.

I already posted this before during the week. And a lot of women have shown interest and are coming. So this is the last call for women only meetup happening today.

I host a lot of meetups and really good ones (you can stalk me here to know, lol)

This Sunday ie 10th May, we'll be having food, and play ice breaker conversation games and a very special quiz.

I like designing quizzes and games as per the people who are coming. I ask them a few questions like what's their fav actor, movie, animal etc and then design the experience accordingly.

If you are new to BLR and looking to make friends in a low pressure setting, this is your calling.

If you've been here for long, but still wanna make some friends or have a good time then feel free to join.

Age is no barrier, don't worry about your introvertness either. I don't force people to engage if they don't want to.

So join me today!

Where : JP Nagar Social cafe When : 3-6pm, 10th May Entry : Rs 699 (food worth Rs 400 included, the rest goes in getting you all the goodies) Eligibility : Be a woman 💃🏻

DM or comment of interested!

PS : you can directly come to the venue and then pay but it would be better if you told me beforehand so that I can reserve the seats and prepare goodies accordingly.

Before you decide to join this women only meetup, I have some questions for you.

1. Are you a mommy?

2. Are you a pet mommy, plant mommy, mother of your friend group, muscle mommy, sugar mommy or some other kind of mommy?

If you answered yes to either of the 2 questions, you need to come to the meetup.

The details are as follows :

A Mother's Day themed meetup for Pet mommies, plant mommies, older sisters who raised half the household, the friend who carries tissues/snacks/emotional support for everyone, women with nurturing energy, women who are just tired and deserve a fun afternoon are all included.

(Sugar mommies, muscle mommies & mommies of human children minus their children are also included, lol)

What to expect?

• small goodies and gifts for everyone
• quiz
• free food
• ice breaker conversation games
• prize for winners

When and Where?

• At JP Nagar Social
• 10th May
• 3pm - 6pm

Entry Fee :

🎟️ Entry Fee: ₹699 (Entry ticket also covers free food worth ₹400)

In case you answered no to both the 2 questions I asked in the beginning, you need to join the meetup anyways because you'll get to adopt some new friends in the meetup and become a mommy!

PS : I have hosted many meetups before, if you are looking to make friends in a low pressure setting, this meetup is for you

Over the last few months, I’ve been hosting a bunch of topic-based discussion meetups for women in Bangalore. Most of them have been free and honestly, some of the nicest conversations and friendships have come out of those small gatherings.

I also did paid meetups for Galentine’s Day and Women’s Day earlier this year, and a lot of women asked if we could do more themed/community-style events like that again.

So this Sunday, we’re doing a Mother’s Day themed women-only meetup at Social, JP Nagar

And before someone asks, “mother” is being interpreted very loosely here 😭

Pet mommies, plant mommies, older sisters who raised half the household, the friend who carries tissues/snacks/emotional support for everyone, women with nurturing energy, women who are just tired and deserve a fun afternoon are all included.

(Sugar mommies, muscle mommies & mommies of human children minus their children are also included, lol)

The plan is basically:

• casual conversations
• games and activities
• meeting new women
• small goodies and gifts
• quiz + fun interaction stuff
• food
• taking cute pictures
• and just spending a wholesome Sunday evening around good energy

📍 Social, JP Nagar

📅 10th May (Sunday)

⏰ 3 PM - 6 PM

It’s a paid meetup because the venue, activities, gifts and arrangements are all being managed this time.

🎟️ Entry Fee: ₹699 (Entry ticket also covers free food worth ₹400)*

Also, all women and all age groups are welcome. A lot of people usually come solo to these meetups, so don’t overthink that part too much.

And if you’ve attended any of my previous discussion meetups before, a huge thank you honestly. The repeat attendees and conversations are a big reason I keep hosting these things :)

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On 26th April, I hosted a women’s meetup around something I think a lot of women quietly carry :
career gaps, unconventional paths, late starts and the constant feeling of being “behind” in life.

I put the post up pretty last minute but a lot of women still turned up.
And honestly, I’m really glad they did.

The idea for this meetup came from my own life.

I had a late career start because I spent 5 years preparing for UPSC.
By the time I entered the workforce, a lot of people around me already had stable careers, relationships and entire lives built for themselves.

Meanwhile I didn’t even have a job yet.

Things eventually worked out for me.
But what people don’t talk enough about is how deeply these things affect women emotionally.

The shame.
The comparison.
The guilt of “wasting years.”
The fear that life is somehow moving faster for everyone else.

And strangely, even after life improves, some part of that feeling stays with you.

One thing I always wished for back then was a space where women could just talk about these things honestly without someone immediately trying to fix them.

Sometimes women don’t need solutions.
Sometimes we just want to vent and need someone to say,
“yeah, I understand.”

That’s pretty much what this meetup became.

Around 9 women turned up and every single person had a story.

One woman had started her career late.
One had tried multiple career paths and felt like she wasted years.
One had to leave behind the field she genuinely loved.
One was stuck in a career break and didn’t know how to restart.
One didn’t feel connected to her current job anymore.
One wanted to return to a field she deeply missed.

Different lives.
Same emotions.

And I think that’s exactly why women need spaces like this.

Because women are constantly told :
“why stress so much about career, you can always get married.”

As if women only work for money.
And not because ambition, passion, creativity and independence matter to us too.

What I loved most was how safe the conversation felt despite everyone being strangers just an hour earlier.

No networking pressure.
No forced activities.
Just women sitting on the grass in Lalbag and talking honestly.

Over time I’ve realised that topic-based meetups work surprisingly well for women who want to meet new people but don’t really enjoy the usual “let’s all just hang out” format.

I’ve hosted quite a few now and there are a lot of repeat attendees because I think women genuinely enjoy making friends this way :
through shared experiences instead of forced socialising.

Also if any woman here has been wanting to host something similar but feels awkward or confused about where to start, I’m genuinely happy to help with ideas or formats.

Anyways, that was our Sunday :)

This Sunday on 10th May I'm hosting another meetup and it is thankfully going to be far less emotional.
More games, more chaos, less collective trauma dumping.