How to go beyond a first date?
38/F and serial first dater (besides an LTR of a few years and some 'casual' interactions).
I can't really say I've really "dated" besides my ex because I don't really go beyond a first date. I need help changing this!!
Honestly my goal for 2026 is to just have ONE fling. Like a 3-month one.
Recently saw someone for a few dates until it fizzled, it really sucked. Thought I was finally going to have my first "short term bf", someone to hang with without the pressure of long term thinking (obvs a bit late doing this im 30s but never experienced this in my 20s as I didn't date then)
I go on first dates a couple times a month or so, but it's usually it's lack of mutual interest (neither of us messaging after a first date), me not wanting to lead them on, or them just not being into it.
I'm a pretty average person. I have plenty of hobbies, great career, interesting life experience. and decent banter. (As per my dates and friends)
I understand why it's hard to find the right long term thing in his day and age but holy crap it feels super difficult to even have someone to have a few dates with.
I read threads here and get quite envious that people even go beyond two dates!
I know I'm struggling to be interested in people because it's hard to find many people on my wavelength. I know it's in my wiring but I'm trying to learn to give things a chance. Any tips?
Pls help me brainstorm! I feel so unlucky lol.