I think I'm a nightmare for an Indian society
Hi, I 23F is relatively new over here!
I think I'm possibly a worst nightmare that any Indian guy or family could dream of. I'm an atheist born into a hindu family, my family is religious but not extreme religious. My dad though, sometimes say things like "for mental peace you should believe in god" but I go deaf ears. My family forced me for some hawan and pooja which almost took 6 hours in school but ever since that day no one forced me. I've no hate to anyone's beliefs and their religious sentiments, its just that I don't like the moral policing of random people, relatives & even some friends of how being an atheist is a sin.
Another thing is that I don't have any motherly instint in me (Ik many people would say you're young, you'll change your mind - RESPECTFULLY NOOOOO!!!) Growing up, I raised my siblings just like my own kids so yeah I'm done having that feeling. No, I don't have any fear of giving birth (as many people said!) I want to be child free my whole life. My mother keeps on saying you will change your mind, but I have been saying this ever since I was 16. I have also been told that no one would marry me 😄 - (uhm?! I don't care? Marriage is not my insurance plan, retirement plan or any sort of funding agency) I earn on my own and would never need to be depend on others be it a man or a woman.
I'm a hardcore feminist (not pseudo feminist) which many people assume the moment I say I'm a feminist. Sadly many woman have been mistreating feminism which is ruining its true meaning.
I do have a bf and we have been dating ever since we were in high school, despite knowing each other for so long I think there's still a mismatch between our life choices and compatibility. He clearly said that "if we marry, you will have to do some religious rituals" (Sir I'm not even interested to have a hindu ceremony, we can get a court marriage done under special marriage act, feasible and quick). His family is very orthodox, his mother legit fasts 4 days a week under what superstition, who knows. I'm all for DINK.
I'm a woman who would keep herself happy first and prioritise herself rather than what others feel. Well this could be completely situational but I'm not the one to kill my happiness for others or someone's so called societal values.
That's it !