i've hired the worse resume over the better one more times than i can count. and it's usually the woman who loses
i recruit india talent for us/uk teams, so let me say the quiet part. the girl with the cleaner cv loses to the guy the hiring manager already heard about, and it's got nothing to do with her being worse. he just made three people say his name before his cv even loaded, while she was told to apply and wait like a good girl.
that's the trap. we hand women "be patient, don't be pushy, let the work speak," and then the job goes to whoever was loud enough to skip the pile. i've seen a 6/10 profile walk in on a warm intro while a sharper woman's cv sat unopened in a stack of 700. nobody rejected her. nobody saw her.
so when you tell me you applied to 200 roles and heard nothing, i believe you, but you didn't lose 200 times, you fed 200 forms that were never the door. the door was the dm, the comment on their post, the ex-colleague who vouches. pushy is just the word people use for a woman who refuses to stay invisible.
be honest with me: the job you have now, did the portal get it for you, or did someone who already knew your name?