Married and living alone.
I've been waiting for my husband's certificate of eligibility for 10 months now. We weren't able to celebrate our wedding anniversary, Christmas, New Year's or his birthday together.
Immigration advised that he can visit with a tourist visa for now. My birthday was coming up so, that's what we tried.
Then like a cruel joke, they declined his tourist visa application. He has to wait 6 months before he can apply again.
So now we're not going to celebrate my birthday together. I cancelled my leave, so I'm going to work on that day instead, maybe have a drink with work friends. And I'm going to come to my apartment, that we were supposed to share by now, eat dinner, and go to bed without him... again.
I don't understand how a married couple wanting to live together is such an impossible ask here. It's supposed to be so simple. We've been together for 8 years. Apart for 3 years (he was still my fiance when I moved back to Japan). All we want is to start building a life here, together.
If the CoE for his spouse visa ends up declined, I think I'm legitimately going to lose it. Maybe I'll just quit my job and leave this stupid country and abandon my stupid Japanese citizenship.