Domestic Rejection Etiquette
Interested in how people handle asking people to either leave their homes or not come in at all due to fragrances. We have signage posted at all entrances to our house but there are times where people show up that didn't get the non-fragrance memo, or are just dropping by or maybe they're guests of guests.
I'm interested in any phrasing or general approaches any of you may have developed over the years in response to this. In our case, my wife and I both have MCS. There are many scents that trigger her but not me and vice versa so we have come up with code words to indicate whether or not the fragrance is triggering. Once we know the person has to be removed, we've been playing it by ear and just winging it but I'd love to hear any phrasing that has worked well in the past for you all.
The only one I have is something along the lines of: "Look, I need to ask you something and I apologize in advance for this. Trust me, this is about to be more embarrassing for me than it is for you but my wife and I both suffer from [MCS]." I'll then go into options to hang out on the back porch if it's marginal or suggest a follow up visit if it's so bad we can't even be outside with them.