r/AMBW

Hey, I’m a 30 year old Korean, 5'10" with short black hair, dark brown eyes and 190ish pounds. I go to the gym four to five days a week and walk over 20k steps a day. I smoke (weed) socially and drink socially. I would consider myself a Christian but I haven't gone to church since high school. I currently work as a CCA at the USPS. My goal right now is to study and get into nursing school. As of now, I do live with my parents.

Outside of work you can find me:
- Reading books, manga, manhwa or comics.
- Watching  anime, K dramas, cartoons, movies, tv shows, films. (Like the MCU, Gravity Falls, Adventure Times, Teen Titans, Code Lyoko, Pokemon, FMA Brotherhood, Arcane, Naruto Shippuden, and a lot more)
- Going to the gym.
- Taking photos, especially when traveling. (I’ll make sure to get your good angles.)
- Cooking (I love making tasty meals, especially for someone I care about).
- Hanging out with friends.
- Gaming (PC) I play games like League of Legends (Diamond rank), BG3, Apex Legends, Marvel Rivals (GM3 Flex Player), Cyberpunk 2077, Kingdom Hearts (1,2 and 3), Slay the Spire 2, Split Fiction, WoW (Retail).
- Going out and doing activities, like escape Rooms, going to museums, going to kbbq, going to parks.

I really want to be clear with this, I want to start as friends, MEANING we’re still free to talk to other people. When we’re both ready to start dating, that’s when I’d be committed to you.

When it comes to a relationship, I want to build a healthy one. I want to get to know you at a pace we’re both comfortable with. Communication goes a long way with me so if it ever feels like we’re rushing, I want either of us to speak up. I like to build up intimacy, like holding hands, hugging, kissing, cuddling. I like the feeling of every step feeling like it was earned. For sex, I don’t mind having it early either, but only if we’re both fully on board and there is trust/communication. The one thing I’ll never rush though is I love you.

Here’s a little bit about me. I’m affectionate, dependable, empathetic, grounded, funny (try to be at least), honest, loyal, open minded, patient and understanding. I enjoy dark humor and can be unhinged, but I know when to be mature. I like to use all the love languages, depending on the day and time I change what I use. I pay attention to the little things. I can be spontaneous and be the one who plans.

I’ll show you appreciation every single day, giving you random forehead kisses, hugs from behind, saying hey cutie, beautiful, jagiya, gongju or a special nickname. If you ever need someone to talk to, I’ll listen to you (just not on my left side though, partially lost my hearing after not breathing as I was doing PR while I was working out). I’ll match your energy. I’ll be here through the good, the bad and the ugly. I don’t deserve someone if I’m only there for the good times.

What I’m looking for in a partner is someone who communicates, has a sense of humor, has accountability. A gym buddy would be nice and someone who’s active is preferred so we can do activities together. My favorite notification. Someone I can cook for and enjoy eating out with/exploring new restaurants/cafes. A travel buddy (The furthest I've gone is LA). Preferably someone I can game with and watch videos with, like anime, cartoons, shows, movies, etc.

Together we cuddle on a couch on a rainy day and eat tteokbokki. Bring out our best qualities.  Go shopping, I’ll be your bag holder and enjoy helping you pick stuff that looks good on you. Send each other songs and memes daily. Have deep conversations, even sit together in silence while we do our own things. Savor every moment, even the slow ones. Playfully roast each other, belly laugh (even during intimate moments) till we're crying. Be our true selves around each other without being afraid of being judged. Karaoke in the car (Imma apologize in advance since apparently I’m tone deaf).

For preference, I don’t really have a preference for any race. I’m a pretty big guy, I’d like someone who’s as big or smaller than I am. I don’t mind if you are more muscular than me. 21+ only.

Dealbreakers:
- ⁠Lack of communication.
- Disrespect boundaries.
- ⁠Cheating.
- Lack of accountability.
- Flaking.

If you end up messaging me, tell me about yourself. Your age, what you look like, your hobbies, what you’re looking for in a partner and a relationship. One lined sentences or just a dry message will be ignored. If you’re comfortable sending a pic, I’ll send you mine too. I’ll be upfront when I say physical attraction matters to me. If we end up not feeling attraction, I don’t mind being friends. I'm pretty much an open book, so ask me anything (within reason). Don't be afraid to message me, I don't bite. Hard. 

• 38/f/GA
• BA in English (I have worked overseas before SK & Taiwan and willing to teach again)
• No debt
• 5'9.5", average body type (not obese or overweight)
• Valid passport

Anything else we can talk about it, but I am more than ready to leave the country. Dating in the US is a bust. Let's just get married and work together, everything else will hopefully fall into place.

so I posted a selfie a little bit ago and got lots of messages from beautiful women showing love and support. I got to say, I noticed a lot of genuine love and support from the beautiful community here that I honestly didn't see from other AMXF groups (AMWF or AMLF and etc). Usually in those groups it's crickets or a ratio of more men than women. Not to mention there seemed to be more hoops and obstacles to go through. Anyone else care to chime in? I might stay here a while hehe.

Edit: I feel much appreciated here. I think I'm really gonna stay a while hehe.

Hello everyone.

I'm a 26-year-old Chinese man looking for a genuine, long-term relationship that can eventually lead to marriage.

I work in the food industry in China and plan to continue building my future here. Because of my work and family, I'm looking for someone who is open to moving to China after marriage so that we can build a life together.

I'm about 165 cm tall. I'm a quiet, sincere, and somewhat introverted person, but I become more open and comfortable once I get to know someone. I value honesty, loyalty, respect, patience, and good communication.

I live a simple and healthy lifestyle. I don't smoke, and I rarely drink. I enjoy cooking, spending time at home, keeping things clean and organized, and appreciating the simple things in everyday life. I'm not someone who enjoys a complicated or overly social lifestyle.

For me, a relationship is not only about attraction. I hope to meet someone whose personality and values are compatible with mine — someone kind, sincere, understanding, and willing to communicate openly.

I'm hoping to meet someone who is serious about marriage, ideally within a reasonable age range, and who is genuinely open to building a future in China. I understand that moving to another country is a big decision, so I would never expect someone to make that choice immediately. I believe these things should be discussed and decided together after we truly get to know each other.

I'm not looking for games, casual dating, or financial support. I'm looking for a real connection, mutual support, and a relationship where both people are willing to make an effort.

I can communicate in English, and I'm happy to take things slowly and get to know each other through conversation.

If you believe that love is built on honesty, loyalty, understanding, and mutual respect, I'd be happy to get to know you.

Feel free to send me a message.

I need to get this off my chest, because if I don't write it here anonymously, I'll literally lose my mind. I'm 49. In real life, I'm a successful professional, financially independent, I have a grown daughter. But every Friday, I voluntarily turn myself into a powerless sex rag, and I agree to it myself.
He's 23. He's Korean, came here to study. He has this flawless face, this firm young body, and when he looks at me with those dark eyes, my knees give out. Next to him, I feel alive. I feel like I'm still "in the game." But for that illusion of youth, I'm paying a horrible, ugly price.
At first, it was amazing — passion, adrenaline, feeling like I cheated time. But real quick, his tastes changed. He grew up on hardcore porn and started demanding things from me that are physically uncomfortable and painful. Because of age changes, my body doesn't handle the strain like it used to; my own physiology betrays me. But when he ties me up, uses rough, dirty practices, and causes real pain — I stay quiet. I clench my teeth and fake wild ecstasy. I'm so terrified of showing him any weakness, terrified of seeing disgust in his eyes.
I know what he's thinking. He grew up in that flawless K-beauty culture where girls in their twenties look like porcelain dolls. And me? I have stretch marks on my stomach, my skin texture has changed, I'm going through menopause. Every time I try to say "no" or hint that I'm hurting, I see his eyes just go dead. And in that moment, cold panic washes over me. I realize: one real rejection from me, and he'll leave me for some young peer who doesn't have to hide anything.
I'm erasing my own boundaries on purpose. I let him treat me like an inanimate object because my body has become my currency — the price I pay for the right to feel desired. Society expects women my age to quietly disappear, put on gray cardigans, and bake pies. But I want passion, I want to live! The irony is, in chasing that life, I'm voluntarily going through emotional and physical humiliation.
Yesterday, after he left, I sat in the bathroom for an hour, washing off the traces and crying from this burning self-hatred. Where the hell is that line between being liberated and completely destroying your own dignity? I'm fighting for my youth, but in bed with him, I feel more dead than ever.

Is it cultural appropriation if I like it as a style?

edit: locks* not dreads

R&B Mahjong Event in DC tomorrow at the Chinese Museum. I will be the beautiful modelesque girl in the qipao! please say hi!

What brought you here? I wanna know your story

Myself: I grew up in an area with mostly poc and i think that influenced my likes, not to mention i have a diverse family. But i also see similarities on how America society treats am and bw!

Let me know about you!

Anyone from Houston