r/Apothisexual

Being seen as immature or childish for genuinely not wanting anything to do with it, not feeling any pull or desire to it, not feeling like anything in life is lost if I never had it ever, preferring that no one sees me in that way, wanting something that never touches on that act ever. Not even once.

You have your allos, then you have your non-repulsed aces, then you have this. It’s like people can get behind asexuality when it’s not repulsed but when it is, you’re denying your “natural drives” and being a prude that forces your ideas on people when you never even insinuate that sex = evil or anything.

Its like nobody can even comprehend that someone can live without it, happily go without it, not even think about it or seek it out, and it not be caused by some sort of mental illness or hormone imbalance.

I don’t care that our Neolithic ancestors HAD to do it, I don’t care that animals have the instinct to do it no matter what, I don’t care that hormones are a thing, why can’t I just exist.

Why do I get scoffed at for lamenting about society’s oversexualisation and overemphasis on sex, as if I’m an actual anti-reproduction zealot???

But if you point out that although sex is natural and so is the desire to not want it is, but the sheer commodification and toxicity of it currently isn’t and is quite harmful, that zealotry is allowed.

I don't care about intimacy or 'romantic' relationships whatsoever. I want to experience so much more out of this world. Adventures, platonic love, platonic love more than anything. At least one person with me against the world. I want to take care of myself. I want to try so many new things. Save up as much as I can. I dont want to chase sensation..i want adrenaline and somehow relaxation at the same time. Everywhere at once, but also i just want to stay in bed. That's the only warmth I care about. I want hope in that life will be beautiful and that I can have an amazing future to look forward to. Well, TL;DR a romantic relationship or intimacy is the lowest thing on the list for me it won't even be there. Doesn't mean we aren't interested in anything, if anything its so many other things. 💛

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Alright, so I'm very strongly apothisexual, and since discovering this part of my identity, I've developed a very odd fear. Basically, my fear is that I'll be in a relationship and I'll be genuinely happy with that relationship, but then my partner will start feeling sexual attraction towards me. Now, I'm all for communication and I'd do my best to work through it with my partner, but I'm still scared. What happens if I become repulsed by an otherwise good and healthy relationship because somebody starts to feel sexual attraction towards me? I'm very confused about this fear as I've only had one relationship (I really don't get along with that guy anymore) and it never got even close to the point that this would be a concern. Does anyone else experience this fear?

Hi, so. I'm Vinnie, I'm 16 and I'm new to this subreddit. Although I'm not at all new to being apothisexual, I've only recently adopted the label

I'm in selfship spaces a lot and I know plenty of people who are sex repulsed but are completely fine with imagining suggestive scenarios with their fictional other. I'm not one of those. I can kind of tolerate imagining it, but writing it? Reading it? Drawing it? I really can't. I can't even read fics for my f/o because they're all so suggestive and they make me want to shudder in disgust

To make it clear, I don't mind that other people are comfortable doing this, nor do I mind that they exist in the first place. I'm just saying that I personally cannot force myself to enjoy suggestive situations with fictional characters

Does anyone else relate, or am I just a prude?

I've known I was asexual (and apothisexual) for a while, and I have been questioning my aromantic side recently. I think I've had the wrong idea on what romance was my whole life, and it's very possible that what I thought was romantic attraction was actually alterous. Unlike sex, romance is so much harder to define, and with the possible addition of alterous attraction, it just gets a hundred times more confusing.

When it comes to things considered romantic like kissing, flirting, pet names, or romantic behaviors (are these romantic behaviors?) like dating(I prefer to see it as hanging out), candlelit dinners, I do find it cringe, weird, and discomforting, but the thing is that I'm not sure if I'm subconsciously seeing these things as sexual and it's actually me being sex-repulsed. To be fair, with how much society loops sex and romance together, I wouldn't be surprised if these things were actually sexual or meaning to lead to such.

I do have a "crush/partner" (which may or may not be a mesh atp) and I know I'm probably somewhere on the aro spectrum, but other than that, I'm just really confused by myself and I can't tell if it's sex or romance repulsion.

TL;DR: I don't know if I'm actually a romance-repulsed aroace with alterous attraction or just apothisexual with a really weird version of romance. Are there other apothi aces here that might know something similar?

(I'm not native. Srry if the text is hard to umderstand. I tried my best)

The title explained it all

When I mention the "their body, their choices. You have no right to rape just because how their outfit is. If the women was a real slut and being weird, the society will judge them already, no men have the right to touch their body"

My parents, they get mad real quick, saying I was crazy with that kind of thought

Anw, I just said I'm afraid, mild panic,.. whatever it is, I still interact normal with my male friends. I tell my parents stories from other countries I encounter on internet jus bcuz I wanted to when having some quality family moment.

And ya know what, they still irritated when I was still afraid after they reassured me, bcause I CANNOT STOP SCRARED...???

Hahhahha....funny. Should I go see a doc guys? I'm sensitive with sexual topics being mentioned as a sex-repulsed. I really did try to tone down my reaction a lot. Am I crazy?