r/AttractionDynamics

Hi everyone!
I’ve gone out with a man (45) three times, about once a week. Outside of texting to set up dates, he doesn’t really call or message. In person he seems genuinely interested and has told me he’s very attracted to me.

His wife passed away two years ago, and he still refers to her as “my wife,” which makes sense since he hasn’t dated since. When we first met, I told him I wanted to go slow.

My question is: Is this level of texting normal early on? Is he giving me space because I said I wanted to go slow, or is he just not that into me? In past relationships, anyone interested in me usually texted daily.

We last saw each other Saturday. On Sunday I asked if he wanted coffee, and he said he’d like to see me but had church and work to do, and suggested a rain check. He didn’t text again after I said that was fine.

What do you think?