r/AuthorAvi

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For a long time, I was looking for a life partner who would genuinely feel right for me.

Like most people, I also had a picture in my mind of the kind of partner I wanted—their personality, mindset, lifestyle, how they would treat me, how they would support me, and the kind of relationship I wanted to experience.

At some point, I discovered Law of Attraction and manifestation through YouTube. And honestly, I tried A LOT of things.

I watched different videos, followed different techniques, tried different methods, and sometimes copied what I saw working for other people.

But nothing seemed to work for me.

Instead, I started getting more and more confused.

My trust started breaking. I would have breakdowns, overthink everything, look at the circumstances around me and wonder, "Why isn't this happening for me?"

There was so much contrast between what I wanted and what I was actually experiencing that I couldn't understand what I was doing wrong.

Then I came across Avit Bansal Sir's videos.

I found his 10-day series, where he explained different aspects of manifestation in a way that finally started making sense to me.

And one thing completely changed my perspective:

It's not just about doing a manifestation process in the morning and at night. It's about who you are being throughout the day.

I realized that I was doing my techniques for a few minutes and then spending the rest of my day living from my old beliefs, fears, past experiences and old identity.

Basically, I was trying to create a new reality while constantly identifying with my old one.

That realization was HUGE for me.

So instead of constantly trying new techniques, I decided to work on one thing:

My identity.

For about one month, I focused primarily on shifting my identity.

Whenever an old belief came up—especially beliefs created from my past experiences—I started noticing it instead of automatically accepting it.

And whenever those old thoughts appeared, I would remind myself of the new beliefs I wanted to embody.

I didn't magically become positive 24/7.

I still had doubts.

I still had moments where my old thoughts came back.

But instead of allowing those thoughts to define my reality, I kept reminding myself:

"That's the old version of me. I don't have to identify with that anymore."

Slowly, I started noticing a change within myself.

And then something interesting happened.

I met someone.

Initially, I was honestly very confused.

It was a situation where I was going back and forth between "Should I?" and "Shouldn't I?"

So I decided to stop overthinking and told myself:

If this is right for me, I'll be guided.

I started talking to him and, instead of focusing only on superficial things, I started observing who he actually was.

One funny thing was that I had always imagined myself with a businessman.

But the person I met was a government employee.

So initially, I thought, "Okay… this isn't exactly what I had imagined."

But then I started looking at the things that actually mattered to me.

I had written down that I wanted someone who was caring.

Someone with a good mindset.

Someone who would understand me.

Someone who would support me.

Someone who had ambitions and wanted to grow.

Someone who would be my partner rather than just a husband.

And slowly, day by day, I started realizing something…

He was actually matching so many things I had written in my notebook.

He lives in a metro city—something I had imagined.

He has a good mindset.

Even though he is a government employee, he has the desire to build something of his own and explore business.

He supports me and my aspirations.

And most importantly, the way he treats me and makes me feel is very close to what I had actually wanted.

That's when I realized something important:

Maybe I had been so focused on getting the exact package I had imagined that I had forgotten to focus on the person and the feeling I actually wanted to experience.

And that's when everything started making sense.

I had written down what I wanted.

But somewhere, my old beliefs, past experiences, fears and identity were constantly contradicting it.

Once I started working on those things, my perspective—and eventually my experiences—started changing.

Within around a month, I could genuinely see a difference.

I'm not saying that manifestation is a magic formula or that everyone will get the exact same results in the exact same timeline.

I'm only sharing my personal experience because I know how frustrating it feels when you try everything and still feel like nothing is working.

For me, the biggest shift wasn't another technique.

It was understanding:

"Who am I being when I'm not doing the technique?"

That question changed everything for me.

And today, when I look at my partner, I genuinely feel grateful—not because every single detail happened exactly the way I had imagined, but because so many of the qualities and experiences I had written down are actually present in my relationship.

Sometimes, the manifestation isn't about getting the exact person your mind has pictured.

Sometimes, it's about becoming the version of yourself who can recognize, receive and experience what you've been asking for.

A big thank you ❤️

I'm genuinely grateful to Avit Bansal Sir for the way he explained these concepts and especially for helping me understand the importance of identity.

His 10-day series gave me a completely different perspective on what I was actually doing wrong.

So, thank you, Sir, for sharing your knowledge and helping me understand manifestation from a deeper perspective.

And to anyone currently on their own journey:

Don't just ask, "What technique should I do?"

Maybe also ask yourself:

"Who am I becoming?"

That was the biggest lesson of my journey. ❤️