r/BayAreaSinglesOver30

Any Deadheads out there or folks into jam bands?

I’ve got an extra ticket to the Terrapin Roadshow this Saturday and thought it might be fun to turn it into a little adventure with someone new? Would anyone be interested in being my date?

A bit about me: I’m 40, almost divorced, and living in Marin. I’m single, easygoing, and enjoy good music, good conversation, and getting out to experience new things. I’d love to meet someone who’s also up for a fun night out and seeing where it goes. If this sounds like your kind of vibe, feel free to send me a message and tell me a little about yourself!

Hey everyone,

First, I want to thank the moderators for letting me share this here. I’m posting because this community is one of the few places in the Bay Area where people still have honest conversations about finding a genuine, lasting relationship.

I’ve been happily married for 12 years. I met my wife online back before swiping turned dating into a gamified slot machine. Our marriage has been the absolute anchor of my life. But over the last few years, I’ve watched my single friends who are brilliant, kind, and incredibly successful completely give up on finding love.

Modern apps are designed to keep you single and subscribed. I couldn't fix Hinge or Tinder, so I spent the last two years and thousands of hours building a counter-movement: marrymejuliet.com. It is a webapp designed exclusively for people who are brave enough to admit they want to get married. No casual dating, no "seeing where it goes."

Because I am obsessed with protecting users from the typical app BS, I built this platform with intentional, heavy friction to filter out low-effort swipers, bots, and scammers upfront:

*Trust by Design: Every single profile requires secure ID and age verification before you enter the platform. Real names stay private until both people choose to connect and intentionally there are no usernames. We do NOT sell members’ personal data to third parties or share members’ personal data for cross-context behavioral advertising. Delete your profile, all personal data is immediately deleted.

*50 Marriage-Focused Questions: Signup takes about 15 minutes. You have to answer 50 deep compatibility questions built from attachment theory and 40+ peer-reviewed studies, analyzing 200+ factors (marriage readiness, timeline, family planning, and finances).

*Video Introductions: No catfishing, no stale bios. You can look people in the eyes and hear them state their genuine intentions upfront.

*Deal-Breakers First: You see their stance on kids, lifestyle alignment, and core values before wasting 6 months finding out you're incompatible.

A dating platform with zero users is a ghost town. It’s just me running this from my laptop, and we are launching our first 100-user beta right here in the Bay Area.

Because I want the foundation of this platform to belong to the people who build it, if you find your forever spouse on MMJ, we will share 10% of our company's future success with the foundational couples who helped us launch it.

To prevent people from treating humans like digital trophies and spamming dozens of accounts, the app has an intentional anti-spam mechanic: It is completely free to join, build a profile, and browse. However, it costs $4.99 to actually "apply" to connect with another person. I am waiving that connection fee entirely for members of this subreddit so you can test the platform completely risk-free.

If you want to join and seed a serious, local community, use the code “BAYAREA30” when you find someone special to connect with completely free.

Whether you’re 30 or 55, your story doesn't have to look like anyone else's. If you are genuinely ready to stop dating and find someone special, I’d love to have you help me build this. I created this to see if I could actually connect people in a meaningful way. Maybe it works, maybe it fails, but I tried and I hope you do too.

I'll be hanging out in the comments to answer any questions or take any brutal feedback you have about the features. I would love for you join at marrymejuliet.com.

Beta Launch:
We’re focused on Bay Area residents. We’d love to expand in the future, but we’re intentionally starting locally so people have a meaningful chance of meeting someone nearby. I encourage feedback from users to make this a real space to find someone special and I live here in Pleasanton.

Feedback:
I built this to see if I could actually connect people in a meaningful way. Maybe it works, maybe it fails, but any issue, feedback, feature requests, things you hate, things you love, bugs, etc. please share in the “Contact Support” in the profile page so I can track, fix, and respond. Happily post in the comments here as well but most effective and helpful there first.

Compatibility Scoring:
The “matching process” is a little different from traditional dating apps. A unique “compatibility score” is visible on every profile card based on the each users unique score based on how they answered the 50-question relationship assessment, which measures values, communication styles, lifestyle preferences, and long-term goals to help surface people who appear highly compatible. This unique compatibility score will vary based on other members responses (User “A” may see a score of 70, and user “B” who is more compatible could be 82) but members always make the final decision to connect, NOT an algorithm. Higher the score, higher the compatibility based off institutional research, attachment theory, 40+ peer-reviewed studies, and specific personal profile preferences. Tap the score to dig deeper to compare compatibility answers and preferences upfront before deciding to connect with that user.

Connecting with Someone:
Members open an Application Window to become visible in the Discover page allowing others to apply to connect with them. They choose their own non-negotiables (things like age range, distance, relationship goals, children, religion, lifestyle preferences, etc.). Only people who meet those requirements will be shown on their Discovery page or whose application will be shown. During that window, multiple people can apply, and when it closes, the member reviews those applications and decides who, if any, they’d like to connect and accepts or declines their application. A connection only happens if there’s mutual interest. There are intentionally no usernames, first names are reveled in the messages chat only if both people chose to connect (One user applies, one user accepts).

Personal Data:
I completely understand the worry about sharing your ID to enter a platform. I wanted to create a space where you know everyone else is also a real person. Every profile is ID and age verified, so there are not fake or spam accounts by default. Real first names remain private until two people mutually choose to connect by accepting an application after a full review.

We do NOT sell members’ personal data to third parties or share members’ personal data for cross-context behavioral advertising and we’ve published a detailed privacy policy explaining exactly what we collect, why we collect it, and how it’s protected it’s here: Privacy Policy⁠. https://marrymejuliet.com/privacy

Bay Area Resident & Founder, marrymejuliet.com

Hi everyone from the East Bay Area. Dating apps have started feeling like a never-ending cycle of small talk, so I figured I’d give this a shot. I’m looking for a genuine connection that can hopefully grow into a long-term relationship.
I’m 35, Korean, and currently in the Bay Area. I’m open to meeting women anywhere from 21-40. Distance isn’t a dealbreaker if we’re both serious about getting to know each other.
A little about me:
I grew up in South Korea until I was 11 before moving to the U.S. Since then, I’ve somehow gone from becoming a pharmacist to deciding that wasn’t enough chaos and am now finishing my MBA. I love healthcare, business, startups, and I’m always the person asking, “There has to be a better way to do this.”
I take my career seriously, but it doesn’t define me. I work hard so I can enjoy life outside of work.

Things that I enjoy the most is…

Traveling. I’ve visited 18 countries and I’m always planning the next trip. Some of my favorites have been South Korea, Colombia, Mexico, and Italy. My bucket list still includes safari in Africa and seeing the Northern Lights.
Finding amazing food. Hole-in-the-wall restaurants usually beat fancy places in my book. Korean BBQ, Ethiopian, sushi, ramen… honestly I’m happy trying almost anything.
Road trips that start with “Let’s just drive for a few hours and see what we find.”
Staying active. I enjoy running, hiking, lifting, basketball, pickleball, and I’m always down to try a new sport even if I’m terrible at it.
Watching soccer (Tottenham fan), basketball, and pretty much any big sporting event.
Movies, comedy shows, karaoke, and the occasional competitive board game night.
Dogs. I have two and they’re probably convinced they own me.
Friends would probably describe me as curious, optimistic, sarcastic in the right moments, and the guy who’s always organizing trips or convincing everyone to try something new. I like having deep conversations one minute and arguing about the best late-night food the next.

I am looking for…

Someone kind and emotionally mature.
Curious about the world and enjoys learning.
Can laugh at herself and doesn’t take life too seriously.
Wants a long-term relationship and eventually a family.
Enjoys both spontaneous adventures and quiet nights at home.
Values honesty, communication, and mutual respect.
You definitely don’t need to share all of my hobbies. I actually think relationships are more interesting when we introduce each other to new things.
If you made it this far, thanks for reading. Tell me your favorite country you’ve visited, your go-to comfort food, or the most random hobby you’ve picked up recently. I’d love to hear your story too 😊

BASO30: Hello- I am a 46 year old woman living in the Northbay. I have one child (over age 10). I like to go to live music, play cards, go fishing, hiking, camping and sometimes hit up the gym. I am independent and mostly have my Shi$ together.

I am looking to meet someone that I can chat with first, then possibly meet up if the connection feels right. My preference is 35-50ish, single male. In the past my preference has been my darker toned men, but I am open to whoever there is a connection with. Please be emotionally mature, and honest. I’m not a game player, and hopefully you aren’t either.

Thanks for reading!