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As an arabic school student in Brunei, i kinda find the subjects more increasingly payah. i js want someone to take my point srsly (other than my mum who understands my problem), and if u're a parent reading this rn, pls do not force ur child to masuk k skulah arab. bcos tbfr, skulah arab is actually insane. & plus, why do we even need to learn arabic? I mean, there isnt even a work field where u need to learn arabic. the only good part is tht u js hafal Quran and other islamic stuff. thts all. btw, i also remember pulling all-nighters before exams to the point i had a mental breakdown.

i also have mixed feelings towards my tchrs bcos some are hella strict (to the point one of them made my classmate cry and stress out) and some are chill. but are there any tchrs who are willing to help with their students mental health? no! i dont even think they're trying!

tchrs in my school also js dont even try to help their students bullying case. as a student who's been bullies b4, i reported it to guru kaunseling countless of times and they literally tried to 'soft parent' my bullies. like, wth bro??

idek why i even chose to be an Arabic School student. i actually moved there so i would avoid my toxic friend back at my skulah rendah. and now? bnyk lgi problems. it's deteriorating my mental health piece by piece. ada lgi fake friend msih. im struggling with depression rn and idk how to ask for help now... i js survive with my phone. thts my only hope. btw, even my mum is gonna make me move schools by the end of the yr. yay.

i hope anyone DOES read this, and i apologize if there's something I'm missing. god, i hate this school sm.

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Can anyone suggest any places that accept anyone under 18?. I know if under 18 would need parental consent but that’s not really a problem. The only problem is where can I find places that accept below 18.

Before anybody takes this the wrong way I just want to be financially independent and not have to rely on my parents for money.

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im an electrical student (ntec) i was planning on furthering my studies again to hntec but something else other than electrical. i wanna try different courses which at the end could lead me to politeknik in ong sum ping rather than lumut after finishing hntec.

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Hi everyone,

I'm currently researching the history of the new-car market in Brunei and trying to clean up some information about brands that seem to have disappeared, changed distributors, or stopped being sold here.

I'm trying to establish the current status of each brand, rather than simply assuming that a brand has exited because its old showroom is gone.

For each brand, I'm trying to determine whether it is:

Moved — still officially sold new in Brunei, but moved to a different distributor/dealer.

Exited — no longer officially sold as a new car in Brunei.

Run-out — the distributor is/was still responsible, but only existing stock is/was being cleared and the brand is no longer actively bringing in new models.

Brands I'm trying to verify:

Peugeot

DFSK

Changan

Alfa Romeo

Daihatsu

Dodge

Jeep

Chrysler

Volvo

Chevrolet

Volkswagen

I'm especially interested in what happened to the brand and when.

For example, if someone knows:

"Volkswagen used to be with Maju Motors, then stopped selling new cars around 2022 and was never transferred to another official distributor."

That's exactly the kind of information I'm looking for.

Likewise, if a brand was transferred to another dealer, I'd like to know who the new distributor is.

And if there are still some old/new units sitting around, please mention that too, because I'm trying to distinguish between an actual exit and a simple run-out situation.

If you know any of these brands, please comment with:

Brand:

Previous distributor:

What happened:

Approximate year:

Current status: Moved / Exited / Run-out

New distributor (if moved):

Source/evidence (if available):

I'm particularly interested in first-hand information from people who worked for the dealers, owned the cars, or remember when the brands were being sold.

Also, if I've incorrectly included a brand here because it is still officially selling new cars in Brunei, please correct me. That's actually very useful for this research.

Thanks in advance!

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I don’t know if this is the right place to post this, but I genuinely don’t know where else to put these thoughts.

I’m a woman and I’m intentionally leaving out my age, location, workplace, and other identifying details because I’m not ready for anyone to know who I am.

I’ve experienced inappropriate sexual behaviour and sexual abuse at different points in my life, starting when I was young.

One of my earliest memories involves an adult I trusted behaving inappropriately toward me while I was asleep. I was too young to understand what was happening at the time. I only understood years later what that memory actually meant.

I think that’s one of the hardest things about childhood experiences like this. Sometimes you don’t even have the vocabulary to understand that something wrong is happening.

Years later, while I was doing an internship, something else happened.

I was working in a predominantly male environment and was observing some work being done outside. One of the men touched me inappropriately in front of other workers.

What shocked me wasn’t only what he did.
It was the reaction of everyone around him.
Some people laughed. Some encouraged him. Some looked away.

I completely froze.

I didn’t know what to say. I was embarrassed and terrified, and I couldn’t bring myself to confront him.
At the time, I blamed myself for not reacting.
I still sometimes do.

Then I met someone else during that period of my life.

At first, he seemed kind and caring. He talked about his family, was attentive, and made me feel like I could trust him.

Slowly, however, I started noticing things.
He frequently asked me for money or expected me to pay for things. I was young and didn’t have much money myself, but because I cared about him, I kept helping.

There was also a difficult period in my family when I had to spend a lot of time at a hospital. He was around and helped me during that period, so I trusted him even more.

I thought he genuinely cared about me.
One night, when we were alone, he pressured me into sexual activity even though I repeatedly refused.

I was scared.

I didn’t know how to get away safely, and I was afraid that resisting further would make things worse.

Eventually, I stopped fighting.

For a long time afterwards, I questioned myself because I didn’t physically fight him until the end.

But now I understand that freezing or complying because you’re afraid doesn’t mean you consented.

The part that confuses me even more is that I stayed in contact with him afterwards.

I convinced myself that maybe he would change. I thought maybe we could eventually have a serious relationship. I even tried to involve my family because I genuinely believed he might be the person I would end up with.

Looking back, I think I was emotionally attached and desperately trying to make sense of what had happened.

Eventually, I discovered that he had lied to me about major parts of his life. There were other relationships, financial problems, and things he had hidden from me.

That’s when I finally ended things.

But ending the relationship didn’t mean the trauma disappeared.

Even years later, certain situations make me uncomfortable. Sometimes I become paranoid around people. Sometimes a small thing brings back an old memory and suddenly I’m right back in that moment.

I’ve also thought about how different things might have been if I had documented everything or told someone at the time.

Maybe there would have been consequences.

Maybe not.

I’ll never know.

What I do know now is that I was not responsible for someone else’s decision to violate my boundaries.

If you’re reading this and something similar has happened to you: freezing doesn’t mean you wanted it. Staying doesn’t mean you consented. Being unable to fight back doesn’t mean you were okay with it.

I wish someone had told me that earlier.
I also wish I had understood that I was allowed to trust my instincts, leave situations that made me uncomfortable, document things, and tell someone I trusted.

I’m still ashamed sometimes.

But I’m slowly realizing that the shame shouldn’t belong to the person who was trying to survive.
I’m posting this anonymously because I’ve kept it inside for so long, and I think I’m finally tired of carrying it alone.

Ps the real text is actually in brunei malay but i chatgpt turned it into this whole text without naming anyone, place or work place to protect my identity

I've been stuck for 10 years without a stable job, I've applied numerous jobs like low skilled jobs already, they either ignored me or rejected me, if lucky the most desperate company that tend to lied and tricked you just to replace the previous employees (e.g FAFICKO). Graduates are increasing every year after year... And only to witnessed a people with only o levels getting a proper job.

I get it, we must not learn to get a stable and proper job, until o level saja.

Do you think marriage between an Arab man and a woman from Southeast Asia is suitable and can be successful? I need your suggestions.

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