r/CarAccidentSurvivors

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I kinda don't know how to word this but I still...needed to talk/ask about it so...sorry if it gets confusing (didn't really know what flair to use, either).

I was told in various ways that me surviving my accident at all was a "miracle", that I "used up all the state's guardian angels", that it looked "more like recovery than rescue", that "someone must have plans for me" etc. When my parents were notified about my accident the wording about my condition was "if he makes it" (sure scared them). After a few weeks the doctors/nurses/etc started talking about how I'd pulled "an impressive recovery".
I watched a docu-series (accompanying an emergency doctor) on TV yesterday and they happened to talk about someone who'd had a similar-ish accident and survived "against all odds", with the emergency doctor there describing more or less my accident as a "worst case scenario" in modern road traffic (tiny car vs big car with high speed-difference). Which felt...weird.

And yeah I've gradually looked at the remains of my car and...it makes no sense at all that I lived, much less that I'm still walking around on my original legs. I've literally had someone ask me how I managed that and I...can't explain it. The car (ignoring the damage caused by the fire department peeling me out of it) doesn't look like there was survival-space for the driver, someone on a forum calculated the impact forces and....they make no sense (to me) either.

Maybe it's because I'm not really a person who believes in "higher powers" or that sort of thing but...I really don't know how to handle the situation, the status of "I objectively shouldn't be here still". Talking about the accident tends to feel more like "woe is me", mentioning the insane absurdity of me surviving feels like...bragging? Seeing the survivor on that docu-series, or being told I should write about it/"become a speaker" or so....how? It's not just me being introverted, it's...I did f*ck all in that. I got blindsided by the other car, cut out, put in an artificial coma and flown to a specialized clinic. I had exactly zero input on what happened, be it the survival or the initial "impressive" recovery. But I also can't just go "alright, glad I survived, moving on".

I guess what I'm trying to say (I'm falling into blabbering, sorry) is...has anyone found themselves in a similar situation, being faced with somehow handling a "nonsensical" survival? It might make no sense but I'm kinda stuck on "what am I supposed to do now?" since apparently my accident was a bit...out of the norm :/

(I hope that post made some resemblance of sense)

Hello, this is my first time ever posting on reddit so I'm sorry if I didn't tag properly or don't censor things right. I'm not going to go into any details about my accident, but it was very bad my car was demolished and I was unable to exit on my own. Its now been 7 months since the accident, and nothing has gone back to normal, I feel like my old life, who I was before the accident, is gone. I'm still in pain every single day, I can't walk the same anymore, I can't bend right anymore, I can't twist and move or anything anymore I'm in my 20s still but I feel like I aged 40 years in one day. Some days I wish I didn't walk away from the accident, I'm sorry if thats not ok to say here, its just so hard to see a light at the end of all this. I'm still not allowed to go back to work after all this time, and I just feel like everything I worked for, my job, my car, my independence was taken from me that day and I can't figure out how to put my life back together from here. I feel like my injuries were really bad but somehow not bad enough for people to believe how awful I feel everyday. I mostly just wanted to rant and get this out because I feel like I'm drowning in these feelings lately, but I guess I also want to see if there was anyone else that felt the same way I do. I guess more than anything I want to know that I'm not alone, and that I'm not crazy for not being over it, and not being ok still, physically, mentally, or emotionally. Also if this is not an acceptable post I will delete it no problem.

I was in an accident in August, a woman turned in front of me and we hit head on. Other than a concussion and some gnarly bruising from the seatbelt and hitting my leg on the dash I was able to walk away from it. Physically I am fully recovered. Mentally though is a different story. I have PTSD and I just cannot go a day without the accident playing in my head over and over. It’s driving me insane. I want to move forward but it’s like my brain won’t allow that to happen. Does anyone have any tips or advice on how to help my brain get out of that constant state of fight or flight?