The human being cannot discover their identity by following someone else’s
We cannot find our own identity if we do not have self-exploration. When we need orientation from somewhere, an immediate response is to try to find it in other people, doctrines, religions, social role models, teachers, books, etc.
Imitation comes from the question, “Who am I supposed to be?” And if you really haven’t done deep self-exploration, it becomes easier to adopt an identity that already exists.
Carl Jung describes 3 ideas about this:
Fear of our own uncertainty: Trying to find ourselves means going to a new place. There isn’t a manual that can guarantee that we are doing the right or wrong thing, but imitation can offer you the confidence to think, “If this person lives like this, maybe I can do it too.”
In Liber Novus, he says:
“Woe to those who live according to examples! Life is not with them. If you live according to an example, then you live the life of the example, but who is to live your life, if not yourselves? Therefore, live yourselves.”
“The signposts have fallen, undefined paths lie before us.”
Collective pressure: Society provides models of what it means to be successful, good, spiritual, attractive, etc. Without psychological differentiation, we can confuse these collective models with our inner desires.
He points out in the book:
“Common laws and doctrines compel man to be solitary, so that he can escape the pressure of the unwanted community.”
“Therefore, give man dignity and let him be an individual, so that he may find his community and love it.”
“Let each person seek their own path. The path leads to mutual love in the community. People will see and feel the similarity and commonality of their paths.”
Lack of contact with the inner world: The less we know our inner desires, contradictions, fears, shadow, and unconscious impulses, the more we depend on external references to build our identity.
He says:
“The path is within us, not in the gods, nor in doctrines, nor in laws. Within us is the path, the truth, and the life.”
“You seek the path through the external, you read books and listen to opinions: what good is that supposed to do?”
“Do you not know that you yourselves are the fertile field that bears everything that serves you?”
When we are not exploring who we really are, we look for different identities outside ourselves that we can copy. It reduces uncertainty, but it can push us away from the experiences of our own lives.
This doesn’t mean that we should deprive ourselves of books. We can consume philosophy, psychology, or spirituality for years and still keep avoiding the process of knowing ourselves.
“The path is within us, not in the gods, nor in doctrines, nor in laws. Within us is the path, the truth, and the life” (Jung, 2010, p. 129).