
Being Mary or Martha
Caught Between Mary and Martha
How’s your calendar looking this week?
If you’re like most people today, chances are, your week is probably already packed. It could be with work, family, appointments, church, people to catch up with, or the many other responsibilities of modern life. Or maybe you’re someone who just loves to fill your schedule to the brim.
But have you noticed? Life doesn’t slow down on its own.
If we are not careful, our days can fill up quickly with more things to do, more things to be a part of, and even good things that can steal us away from what’s truly needful.
Here’s where the story of Mary and Martha is still so relevant to our lives today.
In Luke 10, we see Martha running around, serving, trying to get everything done. Mary, on the other hand, simply sat at Jesus’ feet. And when Martha complained, Jesus gently defended Mary, saying, “But one thing is needful” (Luke 10:42).
In hindsight, knowing how the story ends, it’s easy to feel like that’s so obvious. But isn’t this the same tension we face every single day? We’re caught between being like Mary and Martha—between sitting and serving, receiving and doing more.
It’s part of life, and we all face it. The responsibilities that come with being a parent, the demands of holding down a job, the call to serve faithfully in church, or even simply being a good friend who shows up when others need you.
And then, on the other side, there is the sweet simplicity of just sitting at the feet of our Lord Jesus.
Now, hear my heart on this. Many times, these responsibilities really are legitimate and important for us to attend to. Whether it’s serving others or being involved in church, these are wonderful things that bless people and honor the Lord.
But not every opportunity to serve is something He’s asking you to take on. When you say yes to everything, even with good intentions, you can end up running on empty. The Lord wants your serving to flow from His supply, not your own.
Paul paints a picture for us in 2 Corinthians 4. We are like earthen vessels carrying a treasure, the Lord Himself. And it’s this treasure that keeps us from crumbling under the weight of life’s pressures.
When you’re conscious of this treasure within, the demands of life don’t overwhelm you. Yes, deadlines and responsibilities may press in, but they can’t crush you.
But when you take on more than He’s leading you to, it’s easy to lose sight of Him. That’s when even good things can start to feel heavy. What once brought joy feels like an obligation, and before long, the weight of it all leaves you weary and close to burnout.
That’s why those private moments you take with the Lord, when you’re seated at His feet, are so important. And it’s not about the quantity of time, but the quality of those moments.
One fresh word from Him… one moment of revelation… can do more than you know.
Picture a balance scale. On one side is a never-ending list of to-dos—people to check on, activities to join, emails waiting for a reply. On the other side is the Lord’s supply, rest, and strength.
That moment in His presence can fill you with His provision and tip the whole scale, lifting you out of demands and into His rest.
So how do we know when to sit and when to serve?
This is what Mary discovered. When you prioritize sitting at the feet of Jesus, you receive the discernment to know when to serve. In fact, just a few chapters later, we see her again at His feet—this time really being of service to the Lord as she anoints Him for His burial.
Isn’t that beautiful? That’s how we can grow in our discernment and be led by the Lord.
So let me encourage you: don’t let the responsibilities in your public life overtake your private life with the Lord. Don’t let the busyness of serving replace your personal moments of sitting with Him.
When you choose to first sit at His feet, you’ll find yourself rested and full, unencumbered by the demands of your calendar. That’s when you truly serve out of the overflow!