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Ne or se

Can someone ask me questions to see if I’m a NE or SE user?

I’ve been looking into both functions and idk they both seem so similar to me and I relate a lot to both of them

I was once told that I was a se user after a list of questionaires but that was back when I was 14 so since I’m older now idk if my answers will be more accurate

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u/Educational_Toe6387 — 10 days ago
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Si and Ni

So recently I’ve been getting trouble trying to figure out which one I am, I’ve been debating that I got either INFJ or ISFJ, but can’t choose since I relate to both Ni and Si strongly.
And I’ve been reading lot through both of them but still couldn’t stick to one.

And most people would explain how the functions work, but I would look forward to someone explaining them each by giving examples of real life scenarios rather than just explaining them(ex: “Si is past-oriented and Ni is future oriented), I know that but I can’t tell which one I belong to.

So please! If anyone could make me imagine a scenario and think of what I’d most likely do in it and then explain how each function would act in that specific “scenario”, then I’d really appreciate it! However, I will tell a few points I agree with each:

NI
- I’ve heard that these people predict things pretty well and have strong intuition, which I would very much relate to, recently I’ve been predicting things and it would happen just a few seconds or minutes later, I don’t know if people mean it in that way, but that’s how it works for me, and for the intuition part, this could sound silly, but I usually wouldn’t study for an exam, just trust my intuition and randomly get a decent grade out of no where, hehe, idk I’d this connects with Ni or not but it won’t hurt mentioning it, maybe it could actually make some of y’all figure something I didn’t know.

- also, I somewhat think of the big picture in a way, for example: once me and my friends had a project, and by the day we had to present it, we found out that we had a mistake in one of the slides, and although I’d be the one to usually worry about it, my friend who’s an INTP was FREAKING OUT, like I’ve never seen her that stressed before, but through out her outbursts, I worried and tried to reassure her that even tho we have a small mistake, we still have the general idea there right? As in, people will understand the message were trying to convey through the presentation, why would they worry so much about a small mistake? And btw, i was always the person that cares about those small mistake, i need thing perfect to function, but when it comes to situations like this, where I can’t do anything about it, i would suddenly think of the big picture and ignore everything else cause I literally can’t do anything about it. And I even remember acting dumb that day when the teacher asked about it, but I just told her some lame excuse and she let it slide😛

Si
- for si, I know that they’re people that value details which gives them an excellent memory, which I believe I have, for ex: whenever I get the motivation to study, I’d read one sentence and instantly get distracted for at least 2 hours, but even after these two hours, I’d remember that sentence very well even tho I didn’t pay much attention to it, HOWEVER, if you ask any of my friends “who has the worst memory?”, I could guarantee you their answer would be me, but why do I have a great memory when I forget everything my friends try to make me remember? I thought the answer would be that I just couldn’t care less about what one of my friends are trying to tell me about, which is most likely true, cause they judge my memory with things that happened three years ago in a random day, do Si’s remember that too?

- and for the routines part, this one made me doubt I’m an Ni dom, but I am a person that HATES following someone else’s routine, for example: if I’m going to school, I would like to take my time focusing on my own morning routine, but when I remember that my dad has to drive me and has work himself, it frustrates me, cause now, I have to wake up, eat, leave the house, and all the other things at a time that matches the time he’s willing to leave the house, which I don’t like! I love taking my time, especially in the morning, that why I always fantasise about the future, in where I want to live alone and not have to worry about anyone else’s routine, another example: whenever I plan to make myself lunch but then find out my mom already made food, don’t get me wrong, I appreciate my moms work deeply and would never tell her anything about my plan, but I would feel quite disappointed, but suck it up eventually and just eat.

- HOWEVERRR, why I also doubt I’m an Si is because they suffocate the hell out of me, last year, I had a seat mate of mine that was an ISTJ, and yes I did like the idea at first, but after time, I realised how hella frustrating they could be, what I mean by that is that—> in the middle of classes, I get bored so easily and have the sudden urge to mess with someone, considering that I can’t sit still for more than three seconds, sometimes I’d just stare at her whilst she’s writing down notes like everyday and have that basest urge to tickle her side so that she shows a slight reaction.

I remember how I used to giggle alone in the middle of classes whenever I find something funny, and she wouldn’t give a fuck, she’d just stare, like god, a small smile won’t hurt I promise.
And I would keep in mind how many times we’ve spoken to each other through out the whole year, which was only once, that was the only time she grew the confidence to look me straight in the eyes and ask me “do you have a sharpener?”, I remember how I froze and stared in confusion, but internally? I felt like a proud mother, SHE FINALLY SPOKE!! FOR THE FIRST TIME THROUGH OUT THE WHOLE YEAR??!! YESSSSS!!. I didn’t even care that she was asking about a damn sharpener, I literally gave her my whole pencil case, desperate for her to finally talk to me out of the boredom I went through sitting close to her.

- something else I didn’t mention was how I feel way more sense around Si’s, mostly istjs and estjs, they do seem like they’re aware of everything around them, it creeps me out, this same istj girl, I’d always make sure I smell nice and am still as much as possible, and remember the days I would forget to eat breakfast and have my stomach growling for a whole hour before break time, which was almost everyday, being close to her, I felt like she could hear it clearly, she’s never oblivious😿, and for estjs, they scare me fr, I would try to hide something from them but they’d instantly tell.

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I think that’s that’s the most I know, y’all please type my ass, I’m having a personality crisis thing
💔 help
luv you😾

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u/Hanniio- — 12 days ago
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Hey there

Hello there it’s fucking terrible to be gifted and undiagnosed I had an iq of 116 bc dyslexic and unmotivated as a child and I always felt constrained. Now after sucide attempts bc they gave me benzos in the prev hospital for 2 months everydayI finally was diagnosed with giftedness but that’s with ptsd is traumatic. I am not fine now they think I have bipolar but I had to say it somewhere where I don’t sound terrible narcissistic.

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u/Moist-Association-46 — 13 days ago

The real function order is eeii/iiee

Images taken from post #173. Some more points from that post:

- There's a typo in the English translation of Chapter X, in the 4th paragraph of the section "d. The Principal and Auxiliary Functions", where the book says "relatively unconscious", but Jung's original was relativ bewusste = "relatively conscious" (the unconscious part is G2). This error was given disproportionate weight by some authors, who also ignored the most important points that Jung tries to make in the book, underlined by the quotes that I'm copying here.

- There's also his typing of Nietzsche, which confirms all this: in early chapters he says he's Ni-dom ("In both cases, however, intuition was subordinated to intellect, but with Nietzsche it ranked above it"), and then he mentions him at the beginning of the introverted thinker ("Cuvier and Nietzsche would form an even sharper contrast"), which means he typed him as Ni-Ti-Fe-Se = INTP.

- Apart from Jung, you also have Carl Alfred Meier's statement in his book Personality: "Cooperation with the main function is made easier because of thinking's similar attitude (extroversion)", which confirms eeii/iiee. (Meier knew and worked with Jung).

MBTI PROBLEMS AND HOW TO FIX THEM

I think most people know that the topic of MBTI is too chaotic, with all kinds of conflicting definitions and endless discussions about every single thing. It's too confusing and frustrating, and it really makes the whole thing look like pseudoscience. Many people undervalue it, criticize it or ignore it because of that. But there is something real underneath all the mess.

Carl Jung: "I must confine myself to a presentation of principles which I have abstracted from a wealth of facts observed in many different individuals. In this there is no question of a deductio a priori, as it might appear; it is rather a deductive presentation of empirically gained insights."

What Jung wrote is not "just a theory", or "speculation", or "too subjective", or "an invention". It's a description of reality, and you can describe reality correctly or incorrectly. Describing the mind is obviously much harder than checking how many legs an animal has, for example, but it can be done, because the mind also has a general configuration. That's what Jung explained, including conscious/unconscious, attitudes (extraversion/introversion), functions and types.

The main problem in typology is that the function definitions in MBTI, Socionics, etc, are all wrong. They took Jung's terms and distorted them in different ways, destroying their link with the psychological reality that he wrote about. Those incorrect descriptions don't reflect the fact of function differentiation, the conscious-unconscious differences, the conscious-unconscious compensation, the influence and manifestation of the unconscious, or the interrelations between the functions (dependences, transferences, etc).

In the case of MBTI, their definitions are for the most part derived from traits captured by combinations of 2 letters. For example: their "Si" is not what Jung described, at all, but essentially the result of combining S+J preferences. The same with their "Te" and T+J preferences, etc. These deviations took words used to describe something deep, intricate and interconnected, and misused them for something much more salient and discrete, that's why many people see the functions as selectable "tools" or "skills" and don't really pay much attention to their order, because there's the implication that they can be improved independently and moved up and down the "stack". The letter dichotomies are consistent (they are psychometrically on par with the Big Five), but they describe a rather superficial layer, not the obscure depths where true psychological insight can be reached.

There's only one way to fix that, but it needs the right foundation, which consists on the function descriptions in Jung's book (not the popular ones) combined with the true function order: eeii/iiee, always with a judging dominant for Js and a perceiving one for Ps. That's how you can finally realize what psychological type actually means, what it's all about. That's how everything fits and how everything makes sense, otherwise there's always some disconnection between the concepts and reality.

Note that it's not a question of having "different types in different systems". When it comes to dichotomy letters and cognitive functions, you only have one type. Again, this is not an invention, and your type is basically like your blood group: you aren't AB in one system and 0 in another (for example). You are just AB.

Note also that the function order is not "limiting", either, just like having a hand with 5 fingers at the end of each arm is not so much a limitation, but just how we are. There is a lot of variation and possibilities inside each type (just like we can do countless things with our arms and hands, even if we can't fly), and if someone finds it "too rigid" that's because [s]he has a very cartoonish view of the types.

We can't expect communities or groups like the official MBTI to admit that they have been using mistaken definitions all along, of course, so this has to be an individual effort. There are people who know about all this already, they just tend to stay silent because when this is mentioned in public the reaction is often disproportionally negative. People dismiss it automatically, and the person gets attacked and ridiculed 😔 I hope you can avoid that and inform yourself a bit instead.

PLEASE READ BEFORE YOU COMMENT

I've been interested in psychological types all my life, even before finding out there was such a thing. I came across Jung and MBTI around 2008, and spent almost 10 years reading and checking everything in detail before starting my blog (originally on Tumblr). So this isn't something that I found only yesterday. I hope that's clear. I know what Jung was talking about, and I can see it in myself and other people. I know the problems he had understanding it at first, and I know how the terms were distorted by those who came after him. That's what I try to clarify.

I've written a lot of posts about all this, and also a FAQ and glossary, so you should read all of that calmly before replying because I don't like arguing and I'm not going to answer what I've already covered there. It might not be evident at first sight, but the texts have quite a lot of work behind them. In fact I have many other things in mind but they don't appear on the blog because I'm still examining them. Also, you have to understand that this topic is very difficult, and the blog includes already a certain personal evolution, not about the basics but about some (minor) details, about how reliable or appropriate certain sources/angles are (like the MBTI facets, for example), about the misconceptions that people have (there are external changes outside the blog, trends and so on), about how to better explain things, etc.

Supposed "objections" are almost always simply a sign that the reader is unable to see what this is about, many times due to (or fed by) the person being too confused by and/or too invested (intellectually, persona-wise, etc) in shallow but apparently "complex" "systems", or in their need to feel "smarter" in a purely conceptual (not psychological or practical) sense. What I've found is that people don't really have objections, they just don't get it. So it might seem that there is an argument going on, but in reality there is no communication at all. It's not that the levels of "descriptive language" overlap too little, but that they don't even touch. And sometimes people just like to argue for the sake of it. They like to confuse and divert the topic and avoid arriving at anything. I'm not getting into any of that.

If you don't feel some kind of inner resonance while reading my posts, a sense that there's something in there even if you can't put it in words, it's almost a certainty that further explanations won't change anything. You need to have a personal awareness of the psychological elements, some kind of insight about that, otherwise we'll only be wasting our time.

This isn't an attack on anyone. I just feel bad for the people who are interested in MBTI but they are stuck with faulty/shallow knowledge and mistypes because nobody explains to them how it really is. I'm just trying to help.

Thanks a lot for reading this far. I know this topic can be exhausting, but there's a lot of interesting stuff to learn and discover (about yourself and others), and you might be already on the right track 🙂

u/_Akhromant — 14 days ago