r/DatingForIndia

Preferable if older than 30.

Mature and financially stable.

Who can both discipline and pamper me.

Will have to make a genuine connection before going forward.

Please give an intro hi hello messages will be ignored.

4.11. Underweight. Fairish.

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So I've seen many dating/AM related posts where people rate themselves and one another based on looks,community,Present earnings,Baap ka jaydaad(Ancestral wealth etc)

Thing is,

Looks might fade away after you hit your thirties/get medical issues/family issues etc

Even sexual, physical chemistry etc might fade out after some time due to emotional incompatibility/libido mismatch/stress due to work/family issues etc

Financial wealth can get eroded off due to job layoffs,bad business decisions etc

So coming to the question,

How you feel about sapiosexuality in general?

Don't you feel it's nice to have a sapiosexual person in your life?

If you can hold intellectually stimulating conversations with your partner,this trait won't die out till your 60's/70's/80's also right?

There will be some spice left in the marriage even after looks,sex,emotional compatibility etc all is dead right? Isn't this a nice idea?

I've spoken to quite a few people here without even seeing their faces,hearing their voices etc

The conversations were quite free flowing and nice initially.

One guy told me about how he used Claude AI to file his IT returns(better than a CA and how AI can improve ordinary peoples lives),

another guy explained how he E20 proofed his vehicle by changing a few parts,

Some other guy explained some higher level credit card hacks,after he saw my credit card related post on Reddit.

Another guy explained as to why a particular temple in his hometown has a particular structure (so as to it can reflect sunlight directly on to the idol kept in sanctum sanctorum)

He explained me the geometry behind it.

One girl informed me as to why despite putting spices,not everyone can cook well,bcuz certain ingredients need to be put at the right times in a scientific manner,as opposed to simply dumping it all.

Another girl talked to me about FAROE ISLANDS,Organic chemistry etc

She also told me that she liked talking to me bcuz even I was sapiosexual and the Convo was mentally stimulating initially.

Most people around me can't even name the 7 Northeast Indian states properly Lmao,

and there I had a girl who spoke about Faroe islands and stuff.

Overall I felt these conversations were mentally stimulating in general,and also if i ever made friendship/relationships etc with such people,it could last quite a long time(obv depends on some other factors too)

So yeah,I've a few people in life who are my friends and are friendship exists largely bcuz we are sapiosexual in general and our convos are mentally stimulating.

I've seen girls getting excited to talk with me for hours just after i accidentally mentioned Kpop related things(who's bias and all),skincare,bollywood masala stuff and all

But after these topics were discussed,the Convo was extremely boring as they had nothing else to say.

With guys they were excited to talk with me after we discussed cars,bikes,sports,personal finance etc

On a whole I put efforts to make sure that dry convos shouldn't be there and convos should be interesting in general.

Sometimes it works out,sometimes it doesn't.

I hope to meet more interesting people on reddit in future.

So what do you think,

Have you ever tried being friends/date/marry a sapiosexual person?

If yes,how was your experience?(Good/Bad/Avg)

If no,would you be willing to try it?

Let me know your opinions.

I need just 20 people who could follow me on an Instagram acc which i will be using to catch a guy in the act, pls anyone who wants to help I will dm u the username, please help.

How boys these days find a susheel kanya specially for non hansome boys ?

Planning to watch spider man movie if girl wanna together let’s plan things out M22 here if you are from mumbai lets connect

koi badiya sa yap krdo yawr

How do you distract yourself from such a feeling and the overthinking and the blaming yourself that comes with it ? 🤦‍♀️

Dm me directly

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About Me:

Demographics: 28-year-old male, Hindu.

Physicals: 5'7", 66 kg. Lean and fit.

Profession: Working as a Backend Engineering Consultant in Tech.

Education: Engineering graduate + MBA.

Lifestyle & Interests:

Intellectual pursuits: Avid reader. Recently diving into Kafka, Dostoevsky, and George Orwell.

Deep Conversations: Fascinated by history, space, the theory of reality, and understanding how manifestation works.

Pop Culture & Shows: Huge fan of The Office (US), Friends, HIMYM, Modern Family, Two and a Half Men, Suits, Stranger Things, Game of Thrones, and House of the Dragon.

Geek Interests: Big fan of Marvel and Batman universes.

Hobbies: Playing chess and badminton. Taking city rides on my bike.

Foodie at heart: Huge fan of rains, chai, and cold coffee.

I love exploring local food joints and cafe-hopping.

Vibe: Busy weekdays due to tech life, but value good communication, a balanced lifestyle, and letting the universe do its thing.

What I am looking for:

A partner with whom I can share deep conversations, good food, and mutual respect.

Someone who values open communication and shares a blend of modern and traditional values.

After staying away from alcohol for six months, I ended up drinking at a reunion with some of my former colleagues and senior leadership. The evening brought back a lot of memories, and unexpectedly, they started talking to me about rejoining the company. It wasn’t just a casual conversation—they were genuinely interested and spoke about opportunities that would come with a significantly higher compensation package and a more senior role.
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