r/DiscussImamother

As most are from a Charedi background :

Would you ?

1. Still insist on Shidduch and marriage despite him being gay. Since you as a Charedi mother have a reputation to maintain, and that comes before any sincerity or any true found happiness. I submit before H-shem . In reality really the community's reputation, and I will be darned if having a gay son will affect that or future Shidduchim.

2. Or do the Charedi cut him out of your life. Even though he is my son, and I will always love him. I have to put the community and my reputation first before his.

Like bro do you really think that scores you brownie points with born religious Jews. If you call the people who brought you into this world by a pejorative term ? No

It just makes you look like a disrespecting fool.

You would see this behaviour in Imamother as some converts/BTs are looking to impress .

How to be a good guest

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Look, if I get a phonecall from someone the day after, I'll wonder if they left something behind, so I'll drop whatever I'm doing to take the call. And I'll be annoyed when I get a conversation that could have been a text message (but I'll try to not let it show in my voice). In terms of annoying communications, voice calls that could have been texts are followed closely by people who leave voice messages instead of texts unless there's a good reason (e.g. both hands in bandages, vision impaired (and have trouble with their phone's accessibility options) too old to learn how to text). Even if you've got a phone with a T9 keypad.

I trust that HKBH gave us precisely the right amount.

But also, living in Jerusalem, I want to quote a line from Roger Zelazny's "Lord of Light" - "It is a good thing to see some of these travelers depart. Their devotions have enriched the Temple but they have also tired the staff considerably" The last one is also what I think about the thread about people talking and posting about their Sukkot visits.