4 month old advise
Hi all,
My husband and I are going desperate with our LO.She is 14, almost 15 weeks old and sleeps pretty terribly the last couple of weeks. During the day, she’ll have 4-5 naps around 1.5 hours, but only if being held, that’s not the problem yet for us, we just ordered a sling for her for daytime naps.
Until recently, she was able to fall asleep and stay asleep in her bassinet next to our bed and wake up once maybe twice for a feed, but now she only sleeps if held. We tried bed sharing and she hates that as well.
With that, we have decided to try sleep training because she is just not sleeping enough and it’s only two of us and this is unsustainable. We are also struggling to incorporate a good strong bedtime routine, as we never know how she will be.
- We want to try the Ferber method, but I think she is too young still to sleep in a separate room to us. Does anyone have experience with this method while sleeping in the same room (but not bed) as the baby? Does that work?
- She is also EFB, feeding on demand. Is there anything i should be concerned about with that? When she slept well (those were the days) she would only ask for one feed at night and I’m fine to stay that way.
I was against sleep training as it seemed cruel, but after a couple of really bad nights, we are ready. We have researched and I have concluded that sleep training is the best way forward for us.
I guess I also need some reassurance that I am not harming my baby and that she will still love me as her mom and that our bond will be okay. I have read research saying that if done properly it should not leave any consequences, so I’m looking for that as well.
Thank you!